This (the title) is one of my favourite quotes. However, it is only very recently when I truly realised what it means.
Some of my readers who had read my old blog, davaomommy.com, would know “Honey.” Yep, I’m talking about the ex-yaya. The ex-yaya. She who must not be named unless I had no choice. I wrote an entire freaking saga about her, and I thought that ever since she left — with all the unnecessary drama not to mention — that chapter of my life was officially closed.
Until last week.
I didn’t want to write about it, but this is part of my life and I decide to share it with you. Perhaps to warn, perhaps to entertain, or perhaps just to tell the story of how an employer who tried her best to be good still ends up betrayed.
We knew from the beginning, from the very hour she set foot outside our house and lived with her new employer that she will be spreading gossip and rumours about us. A few true, many unfounded and absurd. However, since it’s human nature to side with the one who looks more api. And the girl can act. We just let it go, although of course we didn’t stop telling the true story to our neighbours. We let it take its course and soon enough, the gossip mill stopped as many thankfully still believed us.
I thought it was over until, almost a year later, the girl had the gall to go to our house and — wait for it — ask for my mother’s help. Apparently, she had gotten into a fight with the other neighbours and maids whom she had befriended (these are also the same “friends” she shared rumours about us with). The fight started from snarky comments and posts on Facebook and ended up in a physical catfight.
We treated her civilly, even let her sit down. She was yelling, as if we were the ones who fought with her. Yelling, yes, inside our house. My mother, who is the Purok Leader, wanted to get to the bottom of the story. What did she do to provoke such catfight? She got angry and just insisted that she was pinagtulungan. Of course. She also told neighbours na pinagtulungan namin sya. Why, she even told people that my little sister grabbed her hair. We knew better. So my mother repeated, “Ano ba talaga ang nangyari? Hindi ka gaganituhin kung walang rason.”
The girl had the nerve to stand up and walk out while my old mother was still talking. She was yelling. Even on the street she was still yelling.
Later, our neighbour, who was one of the girls who allegedly fought her, went to our house and shared her side of the story. Because we already know Honey (oh trust us, we wish we didn’t), her story made more sense because it aligns with everything Honey did to us. It starts with her asking for favours, getting sympathy, telling stories (lies), and provoking people to talk against another person (stories which she will later use for blackmail). In her case, she and her husband treated her as nothing less than part of the family. To make the long story short, now she’s spreading rumours against her and using the stories she’s shared with her in the past to blackmail her.
Oh, and she’s also making up lies about her. Worse, binabaligtad nya ang storya so that the other person will appear to be the liar when she’s the one doing all the lying.
A maid, whom Honey got into a physical fight with, shared the exact same story.
The neighbour that I mentioned above also confided all the stories (lies) Honey told them about us. As expected, 99% of them were unfounded, not true at all! She told them she shouldn’t be paying any debt to us because she doesn’t owe us anything, when in reality, the sum we told her was not even updated. It was the sum she said she remembers as of January last year. We asked for payment October that year. She said we abused her when in fact she barely moved around the house. Not once did she wash our clothes, not once did she wash the dishes, and she barely cooked (it was traumatising). She also said my mother (and sister) manhandled her. These are only some of the lies she spread about us.
She’s even made allegations that the reason Honey’s friend left us (there were 2 of them who applied for work here — her companion left just days after) is that my older brother was showing an interest in her. Which is totally impossible because my brother hadn’t even met her friend!
We believe our neighbour because she didn’t even know someone aside from Honey worked for us.
To get to the truth, I decided to look for Honey’s friend on Facebook and sent her a message. Her first response was “sinong kuya?” She didn’t even meet him here. And she denied Honey’s accusations. She got angry so she sent Honey a message herself.
Of course, the psycho girl got angry at me. Predictably, she sent my mother and me text messages. Take note, nawalan na sya ng phone a few times but she still has our numbers.
Predictably, binaligtad na naman nya ang storya, accusing me of making up stories! The nerve. And the best part of her story? She threatened me that she’ll show up at our house the next morning and make a scandal. She said she’s going to reveal all of our secrets (as if she hadn’t already) and make sure all our neighbours hear.
I don’t use this expression much, but here it goes: Eh did wow.
(I would show you her text message but, nah, I don’t want to ruin your day.)
I wasn’t the least bit threatened. I was, on the other hand, excited. The next morning, I woke up early, did my brows (haha) and changed into prettier house clothes so that I’d look presentable. Nada. I waited until evening but she never came. Three days later and there’s still no trace of her.
Why was I excited? If ever she loses sensibility and does decide to attack me here in my very home, I finally have concrete reason to have her arrested.
On the other other hand (I have three hands now), the village’s gossip mill is busy — with her. All of the maids she fought and betrayed grouped together, now against her. Because she betrayed them, they’re now betraying her by revealing her darkest secrets. I normally condone bullying, but I have to be honest: she brought this upon herself. We stayed quiet before; now other people are doing the fighting for us. But once push comes to shove, we’ll fight, too.
Probably the worst thing about this mess is the fact that her current employers believe her and defend her. Part of me wishes she’d be banned from the village once and for all. The other part of me wishes her current employers, who are also the ones who encouraged her to go against us, will get a taste of her “honey” venom.
PS: Looking through Honey’s Facebook account, I discovered that she used her employers’ young daughter’s picture without the latter’s permission and made people believe that it was her. There were comments like “sexy” and she accepted the compliments, even saying “thanks for admiring me guys.”
Question: Kailan kaya ako tatantanan ng pyscho na ito?