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Working From Home is Not Always Beautiful

Whenever I ask job applicants why they want to work from home, they always tell me that they want to have more time for their family.

That is basically why most people choose to work from home.

(Aside from the fact that there is less hassle, no traffic, and no need to buy lunch, you are not subject to the forces of nature lol.)

Gloomy afternoon. Sarap matulog but I’m still working! 😂 #wahmlife

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When I first took the leap to become a full-time WAHM in 2012, I thought it was the most ideal setup a mother could have. I see my son, who was then an infant, every minute of every day and even though we had a yaya, I was still hands-on when it came to him.

But working from home is not exactly flowers and rainbows.

For example, just the other day, it wasn’t even 8 am and I was already deadbeat. Piles of dishes that needed to be washed greeted me when I took a break to eat breakfast. The house was messy all throughout and the floors badly needed sweeping. My dad, who undergo regular dialysis, needs to be assisted when taking his meds. Yuri is a lot more independent now but of course he still needs my regular assistance and guidance.

Someone wants to take over my desk! 😁 #wahm #wahmlife #desk #deskgram

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All that while working – talking to my bosses, taking care of staff concerns, setting up interviews with applicants, chasing deadlines.

That is what my day looks like almost every day (except when my junior high school sister is at home. My mood soars when she’s at home haha!). And trust me, working full time, taking care – and homeschooling – a preschooler, and taking care of the household all at the same time is no joke. No kidding.

For WOHMs or SAHMs who want to be WAHMs, I am writing this not to discourage any of you from choosing this lifestyle. In fact, even if I go to bed tired every day, I still probably wouldn’t trade this lifestyle for anything else. I love that I am able to personally oversee Yuri’s growth and development and even the in’s and out’s of our household. I like not having to change into work clothes or brave the rush hour traffic.

For fellow WAHMs, I am writing this to let you know that you are not alone and you shouldn’t feel inadequate on days that do not go well!

If you think working from home is perfect, let me tell you it’s not. Yes you get the best of both worlds when you work from home. However, you also get the worst of both worlds. There will be days when you will be dealing with a tantrum and a strict deadline. There will be days when you will get into a misunderstanding with your husband and have to deal with a criticism from your client. And there will be days when you think you can’t deal with it anymore.

But you can…

You probably need to take some time off, or pamper yourself, or indulge in a guilty pleasure (K-drama for me! Hahaha), or pray. Trust me, you can deal with it no matter how tiring it gets.

Just remember that there’s a WAHM here who bursts into tears upon the sight of an overflowing laundry basket or a pile of dishes. Sometimes I give my son a phone because I need to focus on work. I don’t have my life together all the time. Sometimes a week goes by before the floors get swept (I don’t even bother vacuuming anymore…), and sometimes I go to sleep without remembering to change into pajamas.

But it’s okay.

I learned not to be too hard on myself. I accepted that my house will not be meticulously clean each day and that there will be days when I’d rather take my son to the neighbourhood food counter to eat than homeschool.

Working from home is not always beautiful, but it doesn’t mean that life cannot be beautiful.

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9 Comments

  • Reply cheekeegirl August 12, 2016 at 9:24 am

    It’s nice to see your soon is very interested in reading books. COngrats Ms. Maan! You deserve that achievement. If not with your eagerness, wla rin diba? so it really depends sa parents din ano? I should start buying more books for my kiddos too. thanks for inspiring!
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    • Reply Maan August 16, 2016 at 5:39 pm

      Hehe thanks Ms Donna! How are you?

  • Reply May Palacpac August 16, 2016 at 5:46 pm

    Super relate MOST PARTICULARLY TODAY! But so love it when you say you will still choose this lifestyle despite the exhaustion; to be there for your child. <3

    • Reply Maan August 17, 2016 at 11:01 am

      Thank you! We’re all in this together! <3

  • Reply Jea Blancaflor - Lumapinit August 16, 2016 at 6:32 pm

    I can totally relate to this! Hindi pala ako nag-iisa. But still, cheers to being a WAHM. The happiness being at home and working with our child/ren is hugely rewarding!

    • Reply Maan August 17, 2016 at 11:02 am

      Thank you, Jea! Yes it’s worth it!

  • Reply Hannah Iway August 17, 2016 at 5:43 pm

    Relate much. I have my mother-in-law helping us at home because we don’t have a yaya yet but still, I still feel stressed all these at the same time: job hunting (stopped working due to pregnancy complication), breastfeeding, taking care of our pre-schooler and more house chores!
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    • Reply Maan August 18, 2016 at 6:41 am

      You can do it! Don’t forget to pamper yourself once in a while to recharge 😀

  • Reply Michelle August 21, 2016 at 12:34 am

    I know, right? I don’t even have ample time to write a blog post and I miss it so much haha! But still, I wouldn’t trade the WAHM life with anything else as this is a fulfilling and happy life for me kahit na palaging pagod pa rin. The pros outweigh the cons pa din naman. 😉 Buuuut….. The hardest part of being a WAHM for me is…. when the weather’s all gloomy! Hahaha, I just wanted to lie in bed all day and read a book or cuddle with my little one. Nyahaha.

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