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The Thing With Trick Or Treat

I think I’ve already hinted twice (thrice?) that we’re not going to attend our village’s Trick or Treat and Halloween party this year because my big brave 3-year old is still traumatised by the costumes he saw last year.

Well, you can’t blame him. I can’t blame him. Some of my neighbours really go all out, props and all (read: fake blood, fake knives, real wheelchairs) and some of the costumes really freaked me out, too.

So while my mother, sister, and even our new helper, Michelle, joined the party, Yuri and I were holed up in my room the whole evening. When the kids – and adults – got to our house to ask for treats, they were even calling for Yuri. But no amount of cajoling could ever persuade the boy to get out of the house haha.

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Posted by Maan Laxa on Saturday, 31 October 2015

(Photo above was just taken yesterday, but you can imagine that kind of expression whenever he sees someone in costume.)

Ironically, this is also the first year we’ve had good weather during Trick or Treat. Previously, we always get stuck under a huge thunderstorm!

Littler Yuri as a Pirate LAST year

Littler Yuri as a Pirate LAST year

It’s not like we missed out on the fun. All of the candies my tween sister brought home (adults go Trick or Treating here, too), Yuri also took part in. I tried eating a chocolate bar, but then, that day, I discovered I had lactose intolerance. Permanent or not, I decided to swear off dairy milk completely. But no, not cheese, not yoghurt.

(Side note: I ate our usual quesadilla breakfast today and didn’t have any adverse reaction to cheese. So it’s just probably milk. Yeah.)

I’ve digressed. As I was saying, it’s not like we missed out on the fun. I had a lot of realisations during the “Halloween” weekend.

First, I was reminded of what used to be my strong stance regarding it. Because it does not glorify God, there is really no concrete reason why I should take part in it. No offence at all to everyone who Trick-Or-Treated – my own sister joined and we did enjoy some of the treats she brought home. But actively joining in scaring and making scary costumes? I was reminded that the intention remains to be questionable. My God is not a God of monstrosities.

Second, I don’t like seeing Yuri so scared. And my God is not a God of fear. More than maternal instincts, I think his morbid fear of Halloween and anything related to it subconsciously reminds me — and helps me — avoid being so drawn into the “celebration.”

Now, before you huff and puff and blow my house down decide I’m some uptight Christian girl, let me tell you the truth about me. I’ve always been fascinated by legends and mythologies. I loved reading books and watching films about them. I sometimes watch horror films. Now that I’m at the age and level of maturity where I can read about them and not have to really absorb them, I don’t worry much about them messing up my principles as a Christian. However, I still take care not to spend a lot of time over them because, like what the Bible says, it is not beneficial to me as a Christian.

On the other hand, I think exposing my 3-year old to these things is potentially dangerous. Look, the last time he saw our neighbours in costume was a year ago and he couldn’t get over it yet. He can’t decipher which is real and which is not. He can’t understand that even though these creatures look really scary, they have absolutely no power over Jesus. He’s too young to grasp these concepts, so I realised it would be way easier to just wait until he’s old enough.

Since Job and his family don’t partake in Halloween and Trick-or-Treat, too, it’s entirely possible that the last time Yuri attends one would be last year. Or maybe we can look for costume parties — the non-fright fest kind.

We’ll see.

Oh, some photos from last Friday’s Trick or Treat here. Sorry, these are the two most decent pictures taken by my mudra:

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Case in point? Here’s a really poor photo:

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And that’s not even the worst photo! Haha! It’s such a pity there’s not a single decent photo of the Halloween decorations. Hahaha. Love you mudra.

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31 Comments

  • Reply charleys mommy November 2, 2015 at 7:56 pm

    Such a strong stand, Mommy. Our God really is not a God of fear or a God to be feared. Right now, we let Baby Charley joined some Halloween parties so that she could interact with other kids. Thankfully their costumes are very “friendly” naman for younger kids. 🙂 thanks for sharing
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:33 pm

      I’m looking nga rin for events that are a lot friendlier to little kids! Sana may makita ako 🙂

  • Reply Mommy Queenelizabeth November 2, 2015 at 9:49 pm

    I totally agree with you Mommy Maan… My kids used to attend halloween parties only in costumes that are not scary, but this year if u have read my blog recently, they wore those horrible costumes and apparently, i got so bothered afterwards. I was a christian too but didn’t really know that we shouldn’t be participating into celebrations as such, and they aren’t beneficial for the kids as well. (For me kase, it’s just for fun, but still it does not honor God). Just yesterday (Sunday) after church, i talked about it to our pastor and he explained to me why, and right there and then i decided that this year is gonna be their last trick or treat… im partly sad because they really enjoy it a lot, but i believe i need to stand for God.. maybe then we should do other activities next year! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:34 pm

      I was also thinking of other activities we can do next year! Does your church have an alternate party for Halloween? That’d be a great idea I think!

  • Reply Mommy Charm (TisCharmedLife) November 2, 2015 at 11:56 pm

    My son was also traumatised with the scary costumes he saw from last year’s Trick or Treat party here in our office. When I asked him if he’d like to go this year, he said “No. Because of mumu”. I’d prefer dressing up as anything but monsters or zombies.
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:36 pm

      We enjoy dressing up too! Unfortunately, my son can’t separate “costumes” from “scary monsters” now.

  • Reply Pearliza Paguio November 3, 2015 at 12:00 am

    My kids used to get scared easily too but last time when we dressed them for holloween they had fun acting like zombies and monsters.

    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:37 pm

      Great to hear! I hope Yuri would get over his fear.

  • Reply Gilian November 3, 2015 at 12:06 am

    I also did not want my kids to attend any halloween parties. It promotes fear rather than love. As parents we should try our best to avoid instilling unnecessary fear to our kids until they are ready to face them. The things that our eyes see are just too difficult to UNSEE. Kids will carrry these visual memories with them even when they are alone. As of now, I really don’t bring them or involve them in activities such activities. Great stand, mommy Maan.
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:39 pm

      I completely agree, Gilian. I feel like they’re too young and impressionable to understand that, you know, acting scary and scaring people are not normal. I’d rather use our time teaching values such as love and faith!

  • Reply Nilyn Matugas November 3, 2015 at 7:43 am

    Awww. Poor Yuri. It’s OK, young man. Halloweens are always an unending debate to Christians like us, whether to participate or not. I have never thought I would ever participate to not just one but 2 this year, but I did. I have to admit I’m a bit guilty about it and I feel like I shouldn’t do it again. idk.
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:40 pm

      Ako rin eh, we’ve never reached a concrete opinion about that. It’s fun to dress up etc, but at the end of the day, parang I feel like children shouldn’t be exposed to scary stuff.

  • Reply Kat Rodriguez November 3, 2015 at 10:25 am

    That’s alright, we don’t have to force the kids to join in events they’re not comfortable in. Halloween is a Pagan tradition but I do enjoy seeing people dress up, hihi, even what we celebrate as Christmas now was originally Pagan and not at all about Christ, so you know, haha.
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:42 pm

      Thanks for understanding. I know the origins of Christmas, but I have no qualms about it. I don’t have trouble with Halloween, too — just the trick-or-treat and monsters part. 🙂

  • Reply Lorly November 3, 2015 at 12:18 pm

    We also got creative how to celebrate the november holidays year after year. Since they always happen on sembreak, it has evolved into a family gathering weekend for us, still with lots of sweets but minus the scary costumes.

    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:42 pm

      I like that! We had a small family reunion three years back; I hope we can do it again.

  • Reply Grace November 3, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    every year, it became more of a tradition for us to get together with our family sans the scary costumes. we have our own version of trick or treat but it’s just within our relatives who were with us that day.
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    • Reply Maan November 3, 2015 at 2:43 pm

      I’d love to know more about your version of trick or treat! We do enjoy dressing up and asking for candies haha

  • Reply Neri Ann November 3, 2015 at 4:00 pm

    Hindi ko pa natry isali ang twins ko for trick or treat kasi I think hindi pa naman nila maenjoy at maappreciate.
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  • Reply Ruth November 4, 2015 at 8:19 am

    In my case, I’m not thinking of the Pagan ritual when I look at Halloween! I’m more excited to see how cute the kids would be in their costumes specially if they’re dressed up as their favorite characters! ^_^
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  • Reply Melisa Sanchez November 4, 2015 at 10:23 am

    My ZD bear also scared of some scary character pero na overcome nya na, mas natatakot sya sa ingay pa din sa applause at biglang sigawan. lol. But I agree na super cute ng mga kids pag sila naka costume 🙂
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  • Reply Kati Balayan November 4, 2015 at 2:44 pm

    I agree. That is why I usually bring my eldest who is already 6 to these events since hindi na sya madaling matakot. Mas madaling magexplain regarding the costumes and decora that are way too scary.

  • Reply Agnes Dela Cruz November 4, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    I love bringing my daughter trick or treating when she was small. I enjoyed the candies specially the chocolate ones lol. Such an adorable costume!

  • Reply MrsMartinez November 4, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    Kami naman ng daughter ko naka 3 ata this year. Sipag lang umattend hehe

    xoxo
    MrsMartinez

  • Reply Mommy Anna November 5, 2015 at 2:25 pm

    I am also a Christian, we just joined for the sake of my son since he is the only kid in the house and he cannot play outside I just want him to have fun and exposed to some kids 🙂
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  • Reply BA Isla November 5, 2015 at 11:41 pm

    Ohh. OK lang yan. Young pa naman si kiddo. I brought my kids to one and of course, natuwa and natakot din sila at the same time. Tama, don’t force them 🙂

  • Reply Mhaan arambulo-delos santos November 6, 2015 at 5:20 am

    Parang ako lang nung bata ako takot naman ako kay judas tuwing mahal na araw, tinatakbuhan ko siya everytime dumadaan siya sa bahay namin. Ilang taon din akong natakot nun pero nung lumaki laki na ko nasanay na ko sa kanya. In perfect time for sure ma oovercome din ni kiddo yung takot niya sa costumes. I agree yung iba naman talaga bongga kung mag effort. Well kung dun nila nailalabas ang creativity nila, yaan nalang natin hehehe
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  • Reply Heart Calimlim November 7, 2015 at 9:44 am

    Sadly my youngest son is afraid of all costumes seen during Halloween. Nagstop talaga siya huminga and parang trauma. Kids talaga loves Avengers costume and mas fun talaga kapag hindi scary ang costumes lalo sa kids.

  • Reply Ayi November 8, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    This year was my eldest’s first time to attend a Halloween party, tapos in school pa. Their theme was storyland so they have to dress up in their favorite storybook characters. There was no inch of scare in my daughter’s face because the school tried to keep it as fun and as positive as possible. No creepy designs too! 🙂
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  • Reply sarah tirona November 9, 2015 at 10:30 am

    hahaha i find this really adorable 🙂
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  • Reply jared's mum November 19, 2015 at 11:36 am

    i think it is best to bide you time and wait until your son is a little bigger to allow him to join the Halloween Trick or Treat events, as costumes are really getting scarier each year. I also have misgivings about the Halloween events as my son is not too fond of candies, anyway and I only end up eating them all!
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