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Turning 27 and Getting Schooled by Life

The last time I blogged, which was one day before my birthday, I was in a pretty melancholic mood. Things did turn around for the better, as expected, but at that time, I just didn’t have the energy or the motivation to feel upbeat. All I wanted to do was accept that I was being miserable because nothing was going my way.

But as I said, things did turn up for the better. I’m feeling a lot happier right now despite things not being 100% awesome. My smile is back.

Job and I eventually made up — he broke the ice and sent me a message first, but I admit I would’ve sent him the first message if he didn’t already. Knowing him, though, I know hindi niya ako kayang tiisin charot. He also doesn’t have any choice because it’s my birthday, just kidding 😛 In my defense, I really didn’t do anything wrong and was unfairly accused.

My best friend George and I also made up. We didn’t really fight but like some of you pointed out, I was really nagtatampo because of our cancelled birthday date. I wasn’t really mad but was just feeling frustrated, and now I’m totally over it.

Things are finally going my way… NOT!

It was my birthday yesterday, and I had a simple celebration. Why is it that the older you get, the less grand your birthday needs to be? Or is it just me? I just made cheesecake, bought some food, and celebrated at home and at the hotel. You see, early last year, I chanced upon a promo for Go Hotels Davao, which was not yet open at that time. They had an P88/night promo for their opening (which is this year), and I quickly availed. Nothing to lose!

I’m glad to report that my stay at the hotel is uneventful so far (except for the fact that the hotel internet is down right now).

So what is not going my way?

1. The bank fiasco

Guess who’s celebrating her birthday penniless? Me! Imagine my shock, waking up on my birthday, and finding out that BPI has basically shut down operations. My salary is in my BPI account and I haven’t had time to withdraw it. On top of that, I haven’t paid the bills yet and my Sun Life VUL. Gaaah BPI!

(I was able to pay my Sun Life VUL earlier using some of the savings I have with me. Whew.)

Lesson:

Always be ready and always have a backup plan.

2. When the tables are turned

Also, I have another date with another friend, Yankee, this weekend. And due to some unforeseen events, it needs to be cancelled, too. This time, it’s me who needs to cancel! Oh, the irony!

This was a really humbling experience for me. When it was me who had to experience getting “left at the altar” (exagg), I felt very disappointed and hurt. I did not talk to my best friend for a day because of that. However, now that it was my turn to cancel a date which I knew Yankee really looked forward to (and needed!), she felt hurt and sad but she forgave me right away. She also needed to move appointments to accommodate me, but she didn’t blame me for it. I wish I did the same.

Lesson:

Always forgive. 

3. Saying goodbye to a friend

And on a more serious note, I found out that one of my dearest friends from my office-girl days, Kristine, passed away earlier today. Just a day after my birthday. We were almost the same age, so to say I was shocked is a sore understatement. I knew she was ill, but I thought she was coping well. I never imagined that she would die so young. 🙁

I always think of her from time to time because I admire her strength. She had a chronic illness which attacked her internal organs, and she had to miss work regularly to get long treatments at the hospital. But not once did I hear her complain. In fact, she’s a very lovely, brave, caring girl who didn’t want special treatment just because of her condition. In fact, only a few of us knew about her illness.

Kristine is wearing bold yellow stripes, me on her left

There was a time when I randomly sent her a message because I just happened to think of her. Actually, I read an article about her illness, which made me admire her even more. The last time we chatted was when I was in Manila. We weren’t able to meet up because I didn’t know she was in BGC when we went to BGC, so we just ended up chatting. How I wish we were able to meet for the last time.

Lesson:

Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.

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It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Sometimes

I’m your poster cheerful girl. I pride myself on always looking at the bright side of any situation. I have a permanent laugh line embedded into my cheeks.

Of course there are not-so-happy moments, like health scares and relationship conflicts, financial troubles and work-related stress, but I don’t really like dwelling on them. I get affected by them easily, but just as quickly as I get affected, I like moving on right away. I tend to dismiss them and just focus on the positive. Always focusing on the positive is a good thing, I was told. After all, we don’t like feeling sad — at least, don’t! I like feeling bright and happy and healthy and sunshiny.

Well, most of the time.

This week is an anomaly. Ironically, it’s my birth-week, too, but somehow, everything is just going wrong. Not really everything, but you know what I mean. It sounds terribly shallow because I know I have it a lot better than so many people in the planet. But there’s just something so miserable about a supposedly happy week gone awry.

First, I missed my own birthday outing. My family and our neighbours and I were supposed to go out of town, but it got cancelled because of the Martial Law. So they decided to go somewhere nearer instead, just so we could celebrate my and one of our neighbours’ late husband’s birthdays. Unfortunately, we couldn’t decide on a date. They wanted to have it this Saturday, 10th, but I vetoed because I already had a prior commitment with my friends on that day.

So they moved it to last Sunday, 4th. It was okay for me, but another date popped up, that with my fraternity/ sorority brods and sis (yes, just one lol). I prioritised the latter because it’s been 7+ years since I last saw them. In short, I had to miss my own birthday outing lol. I don’t regret it, however, because I had so much fun with my brods and sis. During that day, I realised just how much I missed them. Then again, it would have been doubly better if I was able to attend both,

Second, Job and I haven’t been speaking for *counts fingers* three days now, going on our fourth day tomorrow. I don’t want to give details about our fight, because our fights — if you could even call them that — are usually petty, but not this one. To make the long story short, I told him I’m not talking to him because I need time to process the issue. After a couple of days of sending me messages and not receiving a response, he gave up and now he’s the one not talking to me. LDR is hard, people.

Third, my friends cancelled out on me for our date on Friday-Saturday, the exact reason why I requested to re-schedule our outing (see item 1). In short, I missed out on my birthday celebration with my family and neighbours, for absolutely no reason at all… I know it’s not their fault, but I can’t help but feel bad because it’s just so so frustrating. Also, I admit, it stings a bit to be the one who has to adjust, especially when it’s my own birthday celebration.

On top of that, the cheesecake I was just making earlier is not the right consistency. *gives up*

Like I said, usually, I would choose to not dwell the bad things and focus on the bright side instead. But this time, I decided to just admit that I am sad, that I am not okay. There’s no use trying to feign positivity if it’s not even remotely genuine. I know things will turn out for the better soon, but currently, it’s my birthday week and it’s not looking good. And yeah, maybe that’s fine. I will still look out for the blessings and reasons to be grateful because I know there are a lot, but right now, I just don’t feel 100% happy… and I think it’s okay.

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3 New Things I’m Doing This Year

It’s so hot! Just a week ago, there wasn’t a single day with no rain. Right now, it’s too hot to function. Why?!

But rain or shine, we will push to blog hahaha so I’m writing right now in our hot living room. Anyway, I digress. The year is still young and this time is the best time to reflect, plan, and introspect. During my period of planning and introspection (which lasted for about a couple of hours lol), I realised that there are three exciting new things that I’m doing this year, and I would like to share them with you!

1. The 52-Week Challenge

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Did backbreaking work for this – everything is handwritten! I’m proud of it though.

I first heard of the 52-week challenge in 2015. Although I found it interesting, and although I was always planning to join, I never had the chance to do it. I always end up doing another thing or not saving money at all (which was the case last year).

Because I saved virtually nothing last year, I resolved to join this challenge and be serious about it. Right now, it’s only the third week and I’ve been using this cute container as my temporary coin bank, but it already feels good!

2. The Happiness Box

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Messy Life Lately: Events, Dates, and a Surprise Car Blessing

I don’t know what it is about -ber months (I was gonna say winter but we’re not fooling anyone here…) that makes all people super duper busy. In my case, well, let’s just say the floor didn’t get swept in over a week. It’s icky. The laundry has been sitting inside the laundry bag for days now, begging to be put inside the closet. The house is just beyond messy.

I was that busy I wish I was kidding. Huhu. Then again, being busy means I’m alive and active and I have a healthy social life! Hurrah! So thank you Lord for keeping me busy. Here’s what kept me busy for the past week (okay, a week and a day) as told by Instagram photos.

Saturday: A Date With My Best Friend

Of coffee and playgrounds with @jorjietearjerky. Ah-ah love you like a love song baybeh 😂

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Do you know how it feels to carry a burden in your heart without having someone you can tell it to? Though I also have matters that I keep to myself, most of the time, I don’t have trouble sharing (I’m a “sharer” though I prefer to call myself a “story-teller” hahaha). My best friend George is my complete opposite. She almost never shares what she’s going through and likes to keep her problems to herself. So I really cherish those moments when we get the chance to have a heart-to-heart talk. You know I love you. <3

Det det with the original Queen Bee. 🐝

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We had coffee at Dayaw Coffee & Tea, a local coffee shop in SM Lanang Premier that serves coffee sourced from Mindanao plantations. I will write a review soon because OMG I loved my matcha frappe!

Sunday: Food Trip With The Fam-Bam

Sunday lunch with the fambam ❤️

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Sunday we set a lunch date with my cousin, Kuya Jason, his fiancee, Matet, and supposedly with our other cousin, Ate Maricel, who was visiting from Cebu. However, Ate Maricel failed to make it so we just had lunch by ourselves. I suggested we ate lunch at Rekado, a restaurant that serves unique Filipino dishes. I was able to try their food last year but never had the chance to come back. I’m glad they all loved the food, especially my mum who’s the pickiest eater I know!

Xie Ping party!

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We then had dessert at the most unlikely place: a dimsum place in Gaisano Mall called Dimsum Break. But this xie ping cum halo halo was the bomb!

Tuesday: Real Estate Event #1

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The Messy Life Lately: Good Sign, Ingrid, and Lines to Riyadh

I apologise for not writing! Life has been soooo busy lately. I’ll assume you’re the tiniest bit interested in what’s going on in my life so I’ll let you know. Lol you have no choice. Anyway, let’s start with the not-so-good news…

Papa’s Hospitalisation

Papa got hospitalised again. He slipped and fell in the bathroom when he went in to pee dawn of Tuesday morning. We wanted to take him to the hospital right there and then but he insisted he was fine (save for the big-as-an-egg lump on his head) and doesn’t need to be checked. Because my dad has a looong history of being stubborn, we decided to wait.

We did things normally over the past weekend. The little boy even got a second haircut from Cuts

We did things normally over the past weekend. The little boy even got a second haircut from Fun Cuts Just 4 Tots (same shirt and I didn’t even notice haha).

We figured since he’s going to undertake another round of dialysis in a day anyway, the doctor could maybe see if anything was wrong. He went on to have his dialysis without any problem.

But by Friday, he was asking to be taken to the doctor because he’s been having persistent headaches and was feeling dizzy all the time. My mum took him to the hospital for a checkup, but the doctor recommended him to undergo a CT scan because it is possible that he had a mild stroke (again) when he fell. So he had to be confined.

I won’t anymore go into details (since it’s been a pretty uneventful hospital stay, thank God), but he got discharged yesterday afternoon and the results show that he did have a mild stroke. Thank God he did not suffer any big repercussion aside from the constant dizziness. It’s almost like he didn’t have one, but we all need to be really careful next time.

Me, the Student Driver

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Throwback to this post I wrote more than a month ago. One of the goals I wanted to accomplish before the year ends is to learn how to drive, so I enrolled myself in driving lessons (didn’t really trust myself with anyone short of a professional teacher – I’m afraid their patience would wear thin with me) in Good Sign driving school last month. I basically know how to drive now but I still need to practice more!

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Jobs’ Life Lately

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Shopping + Bonding on Kadayawan Weekend

A full week has passed since the actual Kadayawan Festival but I’ve been so incredibly busy that I haven’t gotten around to writing about it until today.

Thank goodness for public holidays!

(I’m having my public holiday today actually because I opted to work yesterday.)

Anyway, my Kadayawan weekend was full to the hilt! I thought you might be interested (lol) so I’ll share with you what I did last weekend.

1. Kadayawan Bazaar

My weekend officially began that Friday. August 19th was a city holiday (as well as the 22nd, a Monday), but we opted to work. We then let off steam that afternoon at the Kadayawan Bazaar because retail therapy, that’s why!

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Went with my sister...

Went with my sister…

And met with my workmates, Sarah and Jona

And met up with my workmates, Sarah and Jona

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My sister and I went home carrying quite a few shopping bags, most of which are food and clothes, but these are my most interesting finds:

Watermelon Cold Wax - I have yet to try this

Watermelon Cold Wax – I have yet to try this

Organic pure honey

Organic pure honey

 

 

 

 

 

And coco sugar from Hijo Plantation (Banana Beach Resort)

And coco sugar from Hijo Plantation (Banana Beach Resort)

Jona got this as a freebie for her purchase at a Korean cosmetics/ skincare shop. She gave it to me bwahaha!

Jona got this as a freebie for her purchase at a Korean cosmetics/ skincare shop. She then gave it to me bwahaha!

2. Sister’s volleyball clinic with the Alyssa Valdez

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Baby Shower Slash Slumber Party With Best Friends

I know it’s already Thursday, but how was your weekend? I need to ask you that because last weekend, I had a blast celebrating friendship!

I celebrated my birthday early this month, and because of our hectic schedules, I never got to celebrate it with my girlfriends. So we planned to stay overnight in a hotel, just a night of fun and bonding. But life happened and it got postponed and postponed until my birthday was already too far away lol. So instead of my birthday, we just decided to organise a baby shower for our dear friend who will be giving birth next month. 😀

Also, instead of a hotel, I decided to book us in a condominium unit. It’s a lot less expensive than a hotel and I figured we would need a bigger space to host a party!

My preggy friend, JM, knew of course that we would be staying overnight, but all she expected was a slumber party and nothing more. My conniving friends, Hazel and George, and I kept everything a secret. But it was not the original plan. We (actually Hazel) only thought of it a couple of days before the day! We only had a few days to plan and we weren’t able to visit the condo unit in advance, so we were planning blindly. And when Saturday came, we only had a couple of hours to whip up a bash-ready place.

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My Friend’s Lovely Rustic Wedding

I spent my weekend in Kidapawan and Magpet, North Cotabato to attend the wedding of my dear friend, JM.

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In our circle, it’s George who got married first and I was her bridesmaid. (How I wish I already kept a blog then!) I remember tearing up when I saw her cross the aisle – hey, my best friend was getting married and I was (am) relieved it’s to a man who, I know, will always be faithful to her. I pray Yuri and Andrei will grow up to be good friends, too!

And this time, it’s another very dear friend, JM, one of the most reliable friends I’ve ever had. I’m so glad I met and am friends with this person who is beautiful inside and out. Like George, I’m happy she’s getting married to a man who will protect her and cherish her.

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Mixed Mess: Christmas Rush, Pigging Out, and Official Catch Up Week

So I’m giving up on dieting this month.

Pigging Out

Even though money is kinda tight (I forgot to include my World Vision kids’ noche buena in my budget plan! Sorry guys that I sent it literally at the last minute!), thank God there is no shortage of food around here. Thank you Lord for the generous givers around us and for the occasional extra money to enjoy food!

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So even though I won’t be losing weight anytime this year (and may even gain s’more kilos – – even my puns are food – related gah), I’m just thankful the there’s always food on the table despite the sky-high medical expenses haha.

Christmas Rush

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Coming Into Terms With Grief

Coming Into Terms With Grief

So I got involved in a, well, serious matter concerning an organisation I belong to. I don’t want to talk about it, really, but I’m mentioning it because it led me again to a very dear person tonight.

This person I will always keep in my heart is my brother (fraternity brother) who died last year. Almost exactly a year ago. I’m going to be cheesier than the usual so bear with me. That’s a fair warning, I guess.

That “serious matter” I mentioned had me looking through my old email account for messages that can be used as pieces of evidence. I had to recover my password using my phone number (thank goodness I’m still using my old number – almost 9 years old!) and I was able to log in successfully. However, I didn’t find anything useful, so I decided to install Yahoo Messenger on my laptop in case some conversations were stored there.

I haven’t checked or even seen Yahoo Messenger for maybe 6 years now so I was feeling a bit nostalgic.

The nostalgia intensified when I came across my beloved friend’s name, Rendell Ryan, whom we fondly called “Perper.” 6th of November last year, I just got home from my godson’s birthday celebration when I received the bitter news from a couple of schoolmates and a sorority sister. Our dear Perper had died and in a violent manner. I wasn’t able to sleep that night. At first I was just in a state of morbid shock. Then it sank in and I bawled my eyes out and grieved.

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