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Turning 27 and Getting Schooled by Life

The last time I blogged, which was one day before my birthday, I was in a pretty melancholic mood. Things did turn around for the better, as expected, but at that time, I just didn’t have the energy or the motivation to feel upbeat. All I wanted to do was accept that I was being miserable because nothing was going my way.

But as I said, things did turn up for the better. I’m feeling a lot happier right now despite things not being 100% awesome. My smile is back.

Job and I eventually made up — he broke the ice and sent me a message first, but I admit I would’ve sent him the first message if he didn’t already. Knowing him, though, I know hindi niya ako kayang tiisin charot. He also doesn’t have any choice because it’s my birthday, just kidding 😛 In my defense, I really didn’t do anything wrong and was unfairly accused.

My best friend George and I also made up. We didn’t really fight but like some of you pointed out, I was really nagtatampo because of our cancelled birthday date. I wasn’t really mad but was just feeling frustrated, and now I’m totally over it.

Things are finally going my way… NOT!

It was my birthday yesterday, and I had a simple celebration. Why is it that the older you get, the less grand your birthday needs to be? Or is it just me? I just made cheesecake, bought some food, and celebrated at home and at the hotel. You see, early last year, I chanced upon a promo for Go Hotels Davao, which was not yet open at that time. They had an P88/night promo for their opening (which is this year), and I quickly availed. Nothing to lose!

I’m glad to report that my stay at the hotel is uneventful so far (except for the fact that the hotel internet is down right now).

So what is not going my way?

1. The bank fiasco

Guess who’s celebrating her birthday penniless? Me! Imagine my shock, waking up on my birthday, and finding out that BPI has basically shut down operations. My salary is in my BPI account and I haven’t had time to withdraw it. On top of that, I haven’t paid the bills yet and my Sun Life VUL. Gaaah BPI!

(I was able to pay my Sun Life VUL earlier using some of the savings I have with me. Whew.)

Lesson:

Always be ready and always have a backup plan.

2. When the tables are turned

Also, I have another date with another friend, Yankee, this weekend. And due to some unforeseen events, it needs to be cancelled, too. This time, it’s me who needs to cancel! Oh, the irony!

This was a really humbling experience for me. When it was me who had to experience getting “left at the altar” (exagg), I felt very disappointed and hurt. I did not talk to my best friend for a day because of that. However, now that it was my turn to cancel a date which I knew Yankee really looked forward to (and needed!), she felt hurt and sad but she forgave me right away. She also needed to move appointments to accommodate me, but she didn’t blame me for it. I wish I did the same.

Lesson:

Always forgive. 

3. Saying goodbye to a friend

And on a more serious note, I found out that one of my dearest friends from my office-girl days, Kristine, passed away earlier today. Just a day after my birthday. We were almost the same age, so to say I was shocked is a sore understatement. I knew she was ill, but I thought she was coping well. I never imagined that she would die so young. 🙁

I always think of her from time to time because I admire her strength. She had a chronic illness which attacked her internal organs, and she had to miss work regularly to get long treatments at the hospital. But not once did I hear her complain. In fact, she’s a very lovely, brave, caring girl who didn’t want special treatment just because of her condition. In fact, only a few of us knew about her illness.

Kristine is wearing bold yellow stripes, me on her left

There was a time when I randomly sent her a message because I just happened to think of her. Actually, I read an article about her illness, which made me admire her even more. The last time we chatted was when I was in Manila. We weren’t able to meet up because I didn’t know she was in BGC when we went to BGC, so we just ended up chatting. How I wish we were able to meet for the last time.

Lesson:

Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.

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It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Sometimes

I’m your poster cheerful girl. I pride myself on always looking at the bright side of any situation. I have a permanent laugh line embedded into my cheeks.

Of course there are not-so-happy moments, like health scares and relationship conflicts, financial troubles and work-related stress, but I don’t really like dwelling on them. I get affected by them easily, but just as quickly as I get affected, I like moving on right away. I tend to dismiss them and just focus on the positive. Always focusing on the positive is a good thing, I was told. After all, we don’t like feeling sad — at least, don’t! I like feeling bright and happy and healthy and sunshiny.

Well, most of the time.

This week is an anomaly. Ironically, it’s my birth-week, too, but somehow, everything is just going wrong. Not really everything, but you know what I mean. It sounds terribly shallow because I know I have it a lot better than so many people in the planet. But there’s just something so miserable about a supposedly happy week gone awry.

First, I missed my own birthday outing. My family and our neighbours and I were supposed to go out of town, but it got cancelled because of the Martial Law. So they decided to go somewhere nearer instead, just so we could celebrate my and one of our neighbours’ late husband’s birthdays. Unfortunately, we couldn’t decide on a date. They wanted to have it this Saturday, 10th, but I vetoed because I already had a prior commitment with my friends on that day.

So they moved it to last Sunday, 4th. It was okay for me, but another date popped up, that with my fraternity/ sorority brods and sis (yes, just one lol). I prioritised the latter because it’s been 7+ years since I last saw them. In short, I had to miss my own birthday outing lol. I don’t regret it, however, because I had so much fun with my brods and sis. During that day, I realised just how much I missed them. Then again, it would have been doubly better if I was able to attend both,

Second, Job and I haven’t been speaking for *counts fingers* three days now, going on our fourth day tomorrow. I don’t want to give details about our fight, because our fights — if you could even call them that — are usually petty, but not this one. To make the long story short, I told him I’m not talking to him because I need time to process the issue. After a couple of days of sending me messages and not receiving a response, he gave up and now he’s the one not talking to me. LDR is hard, people.

Third, my friends cancelled out on me for our date on Friday-Saturday, the exact reason why I requested to re-schedule our outing (see item 1). In short, I missed out on my birthday celebration with my family and neighbours, for absolutely no reason at all… I know it’s not their fault, but I can’t help but feel bad because it’s just so so frustrating. Also, I admit, it stings a bit to be the one who has to adjust, especially when it’s my own birthday celebration.

On top of that, the cheesecake I was just making earlier is not the right consistency. *gives up*

Like I said, usually, I would choose to not dwell the bad things and focus on the bright side instead. But this time, I decided to just admit that I am sad, that I am not okay. There’s no use trying to feign positivity if it’s not even remotely genuine. I know things will turn out for the better soon, but currently, it’s my birthday week and it’s not looking good. And yeah, maybe that’s fine. I will still look out for the blessings and reasons to be grateful because I know there are a lot, but right now, I just don’t feel 100% happy… and I think it’s okay.

Birthday Lifestyle Yurisms

Yuri Turns 5

It’s been a full month since Yuri’s party! And I have a looot of drafts in my backlog. #mustfindtimetoblog

Anyway…

I can’t believe I already have a 5-year old!

Wasn’t it just yesterday when I had a semi-permanently attached baby to my boobies?!

Yuri’s real birthday was on March 26, but we were scheduled to be out of town on that date so his birthday celebration was held a week earlier. It was a truly intimate party (yes, a McDonald’s party can be intimate because they only require a minimum of 10 people!) where I invited people close to us. Continue Reading

Mixed Mess Personal

26 Questions on my 26th Year

My gift to myself this year is a long weekend. 🙂

I spent my 26th birthday last Tuesday, June 7, and I took two days off from work (Monday and Tuesday). I was planning on spending the entire long weekend just lazing around, eating junk, and binge-watching Descendants of the Sun.

Well, I did achieve most of the three. I watched Descendants of the Sun from dawn of Saturday to Monday midnight — it’s my first time to watch because I never had the time before last week — and boy oh boy was I hooked. I love everything about it: the actors (Song Joong Ki, because of you, it’s as if the name Lee Min Ho doesn’t exist anymore in my world), the storyline, the amazing cinematography, even the OST. It’s such a pity that it only spanned 16 episodes like how dare you take us on a lovely ride and cut it short. 

Anyway, yeah, Joong Ki, it was really nice to meet you.

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It was nice to meet me too, right? Sorry Joong Ki but I’m taken…

Other than that, I wasn’t able to truly laze around because I suddenly had appointments and my colleague, Sarah, unexpectedly gave birth on Sunday. I then met my goddaughter on Monday! But it was still generally an awesome long weekend.

My goddaughter, Xandrah. Isn't she the prettiest?

My goddaughter, Xandrah. Isn’t she the prettiest?

I planned on doing a blog marathon but life happened, so I wasn’t able to publish anything last week. So here’s a belated birthday post. Because I’m not feeling sentimental (it’s only 10 am on a weekend, after all), I decided to do something fun — and outdated, lol! I got the inspiration from a Facebook On This Day entry, from a time when publishing memes and tagging your friends was all the rage.

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Lifestyle Parenting Yurisms

There’s a Four-Year Old in the House!

Hey guys! How was your long weekend? Mine went smoothly, and last Saturday, I suffered sugar-overload because it was Yuri’s birthday!

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I’m pretty sure I just closed my eyes for a moment and then all of a sudden, I have a four-year old child!

What sorcery is this?

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Well, it’s not as if I didn’t see it coming. Everyday, I’m in awe of his new entertaining antics and — ehem — tactics to get what he want. But my favourite thing about being a mummy to a constantly curious toddler is the company.

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You see, I’m a WAHM in a long-time long-distance relationship. Because of the nature of my job, I communicate with my colleagues “remotely” and my friends have super busy work and family schedules. (I have colleagues here in Davao City; unfortunately, they live in the South while I reside in the North. If you have any idea how big this city is, you would know that going from the North to the South is pretty much like going to another city.)

When Yuri was still a baby, being with him just seemed like a chore. I have no shame in admitting it — the same way as I can shamelessly say now that he looked like an old man when he was a few days old hahaha. (To be fair, my younger sister did look like an alien… I’m pretty sure I looked funny as a newborn too…) Anyway, yes I had my in-love-with-my-baby moments but most of the time, like when he was nursing or napping in my already sore arms, time just seemed to pass so slowly. Sorry baby, it’s true 😛

But ever since he turned 3, he’s become the perfect companion-slash-bodyguard for me. He accompanies me walking around the village or going grocery-shopping. He doesn’t stop talking and I’m sure many of you mums of toddlers can relate to this! We can talk about anything and everything under the sun and somehow, our topics almost always takes the absurd turn. Not a problem at all!

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