Job and I differ in so many ways. One of the ways we differ is our interests. He’s a very active guy, loves to tinker with things, and loves sports. There are four sports he’s good in: swimming, soccer, baseball, and track and field.
On the other hand, the only sport I’ve ever competed in was Scrabble.
Kainis, ‘no? On top of that, I don’t know how to swim and ride a bike! I’m glad I know how to drive now — at least there’s something I know how to do.
Aside from that, I don’t know how to play musical instruments either. There was not much opportunity for me when I was a child because my parents prioritised education over everything else. Lessons were also expensive and my parents didn’t want to spend their money on that.
Just to make it clear, I don’t feel any resentment over it. I did learn how to write and got to read tons of books because I had all the time in the world. However, I do want Yuri to grow up playing sports, maybe even knowing martial arts, and playing musical instruments. In fact, over the summer vacation, I asked Yuri what he wanted to learn, and he said piano and violin. I kept that in mind and shared it with Job although there weren’t concrete plans made.
The Piano Lesson Promo
I didn’t think about it at all until last Friday. When I went to school to fetch Yuri, there was a lady outside the gate distributing leaflets for what was obviously a music/performance school and I just had to ask for one. I asked her where it was located, and she told me it’s just beside Yuri’s school. OMG!
I studied the leaflet while waiting for Yuri. They’re having a 50% discount promo, and it sounded like a really good deal to me.
Job is off from work on Fridays so I quickly snapped photos of the leaflet and sent it to him and waited for his go-signal. Meanwhile, I was already imagining Yuri as the next piano prodigy.
A go-signal from him is very important to me. This is not just because he’s paying for it or he’s his son’s father. I am a very impulsive person. Making big decisions on the spot is not foreign to me. On the other hand, Job likes to think things through. He never jumps into something without careful calculation, so more often than not, whatever new venture he’s entering, he’s already 101% prepared for it.
A simple decision (like piano lessons!) for me can be made in a split-second; for him, it takes weeks, sometimes months, sometimes years. Now you see why I need his go-signal; I can’t be trusted with myself! I also like to believe that God’s wisdom is better coursed through Job’s method of making decisions. With my style, sometimes I even forget to seek God’s wisdom.
The No-Go Signal
I was already super excited for Yuri to begin his piano lessons (or violin lessons, whichever was preferable). Unfortunately, I didn’t get the coveted go-signal from his dad. I was disappointed, but I understood the decision. I was especially appreciative of the fact that Job explained his reasons. According to him,
- My schedule is already loaded. Balancing two jobs, helping in the family, and being a rookie school mom take up a lot of my time. He didn’t want me getting sick because I’m doing too many things.
- Our priority this year is to save money. Even though the lessons are affordable, we’re still going to spend a good amount of money over them especially if we started counting food, gasoline, allowance, and other expenses.
- Yuri is still little, and there’s still a lot of time to start lessons. He can always have them next summer or next year if he really wants to.
I admit all of his reasons make sense, and that those didn’t even occur to me. I don’t resent him at all for not “allowing” Yuri to take lessons. In fact, I am thankful that he think things through and make decisions that are practical. To be honest, I could have just gone ahead and enrolled Yuri, but it doesn’t feel right to do so. Also, if things would go wrong, I would have no one else to blame but myself, lol!
In the meantime, I’ll be on the lookout for “free” “no-commitment” alternatives that we can try teehee.