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Piano Lessons and the No-Go Signal

Job and I differ in so many ways. One of the ways we differ is our interests. He’s a very active guy, loves to tinker with things, and loves sports. There are four sports he’s good in: swimming, soccer, baseball, and track and field.

On the other hand, the only sport I’ve ever competed in was Scrabble.

Kainis, ‘no? On top of that, I don’t know how to swim and ride a bike! I’m glad I know how to drive now — at least there’s something I know how to do.

Aside from that, I don’t know how to play musical instruments either. There was not much opportunity for me when I was a child because my parents prioritised education over everything else. Lessons were also expensive and my parents didn’t want to spend their money on that.

Just to make it clear, I don’t feel any resentment over it. I did learn how to write and got to read tons of books because I had all the time in the world. However, I do want Yuri to grow up playing sports, maybe even knowing martial arts, and playing musical instruments. In fact, over the summer vacation, I asked Yuri what he wanted to learn, and he said piano and violin. I kept that in mind and shared it with Job although there weren’t concrete plans made.

The Piano Lesson Promo

I didn’t think about it at all until last Friday. When I went to school to fetch Yuri, there was a lady outside the gate distributing leaflets for what was obviously a music/performance school and I just had to ask for one. I asked her where it was located, and she told me it’s just beside Yuri’s school. OMG!

I studied the leaflet while waiting for Yuri. They’re having a 50% discount promo, and it sounded like a really good deal to me.

Job is off from work on Fridays so I quickly snapped photos of the leaflet and sent it to him and waited for his go-signal. Meanwhile, I was already imagining Yuri as the next piano prodigy.

A go-signal from him is very important to me. This is not just because he’s paying for it or he’s his son’s father. I am a very impulsive person. Making big decisions on the spot is not foreign to me. On the other hand, Job likes to think things through. He never jumps into something without careful calculation, so more often than not, whatever new venture he’s entering, he’s already 101% prepared for it.

A simple decision (like piano lessons!) for me can be made in a split-second; for him, it takes weeks, sometimes months, sometimes years. Now you see why I need his go-signal; I can’t be trusted with myself! I also like to believe that God’s wisdom is better coursed through Job’s method of making decisions. With my style, sometimes I even forget to seek God’s wisdom.

The No-Go Signal

I was already super excited for Yuri to begin his piano lessons (or violin lessons, whichever was preferable). Unfortunately, I didn’t get the coveted go-signal from his dad. I was disappointed, but I understood the decision. I was especially appreciative of the fact that Job explained his reasons. According to him,

  1. My schedule is already loaded. Balancing two jobs, helping in the family, and being a rookie school mom take up a lot of my time. He didn’t want me getting sick because I’m doing too many things.
  2. Our priority this year is to save money. Even though the lessons are affordable, we’re still going to spend a good amount of money over them especially if we started counting food, gasoline, allowance, and other expenses.
  3. Yuri is still little, and there’s still a lot of time to start lessons. He can always have them next summer or next year if he really wants to.

I admit all of his reasons make sense, and that those didn’t even occur to me. I don’t resent him at all for not “allowing” Yuri to take lessons. In fact, I am thankful that he think things through and make decisions that are practical.  To be honest, I could have just gone ahead and enrolled Yuri, but it doesn’t feel right to do so. Also, if things would go wrong, I would have no one else to blame but myself, lol!

This was me watching Yuri play inside a playroom in SM Lanang. This can also be me mulling over my decisions lololol.

In the meantime, I’ll be on the lookout for “free” “no-commitment” alternatives that we can try teehee.

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8 Comments

  • Reply Above Precious Rubies July 6, 2017 at 6:42 am

    Uy, I have a feeling lagi nga magkasundo sila ni Dane! Si Dane loves basketball and football/soccer pud! Tapos pareho pa silang naka KSA. Opposites match jud no? Ako pud, very unathletic. Di jud ko active. lol.

    It’s really good that you’re asking Job when it comes to decision makings like these. Aside from he’s the dad, he’s your partner. He has good reasons jud. I’m muabot ra ang perfect opportunity for Yuri. 🙂
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  • Reply Michi July 6, 2017 at 7:10 am

    Like you, when I was a kid I did not take any summer classes because we don’t have a budget for that. So when I became a mom, I want my son take summer classes but he doesn’t like to take classes naman. I don’t know why pero sayang naman ang fee kung hindi siya interested.

  • Reply Michelle July 6, 2017 at 10:27 am

    Piano lessons are something I wanted my kids’ to try in the future. I can imagine them playing piano beside me when I get old na kaya gusto kong matuto sila. But I won’t force them if they don’t want naman. Anyway, tama naman si hubby sis. Number 1 na inalala nya is your health and well-being. There will be plenty of time for that next time. 🙂

  • Reply Janice July 6, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    I have this urge to also enroll my son in all these lessons I keep learning about online. Haha! I took several lessons myself as a child and I want my kids to have the same experience. But I also have to learn to balance things out because I don’t want him to be too busy to “just be a kid”.
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  • Reply Berlin | Momi Berlin July 7, 2017 at 5:34 am

    Now I understand why you seeked for Job’s go signal. He decided with wisdom and saw those little details.

    My two boys are into piano lessons. How I wish they could study full-time but then with school and other commitments, they only go to their piano teacher when they have time. Though my mom is still insistent that they attend lessons at least Twice a week, I am likewise firm with my decision that they would rather sleep than play piano. They always wake up at 430am to be sent to school at 510am and.be home.by 530pm.everyday. how can you squeeze in piano pa? anyway, they attend lessons Friday evening.
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  • Reply Nerisa July 7, 2017 at 9:57 am

    The promo rate for the piano lessons is really very cheap. Nakakatuwa din your husband for explaining everything to you after saying no. Minsan kasi some husbands just say, no without explaining kaya nagkakaron ng misunderstanding.
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  • Reply EINz July 7, 2017 at 11:11 am

    Oh, I feel you… good thing you listened to your husband. Me? I got too excited to enroll my daughter at ballet class feeling proud that I’ve gotten her something to do during summer and can continue even when school starts. Turns out that my daughter wasn’t interested and would choose to play basketball instead. 😭

    The instructor advised us to stop attending the class and return whenever she’s ready. It’s from her school dance theater so they assure me that we can still join anytime and she can still use the 3sets of uniform that I bought. They said that there were also kids at her age that’s shows no interest at first, but later on learns to love dancing.

    Right now? I am planning to sell her uniform and the ballet shoes (urgh! leather pa naman). Got too carried away! being too complusive wasn’t really good. I don’t want to push her on something that she doesn’t want to do.

    Now I learned my lesson. Next time, I will be more like you. Hehe
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  • Reply Melisa sanchez July 12, 2017 at 9:24 am

    Wow naman napaka sporty naman ng batang ito. They said pag mahilig daw sa sports ang bata healthy daw at masipag. I like the promo price ng piano lesson non? Compared dito sa amin. Hehehe nakakatuwa naman ang husband mo. Like my husband gustong gusto nya na mapag aral ng music instrument ang anak nya siguro darating din kami sa panahon na yan.

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