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On the Fence About Homeschooling

I missed the local homeschooling conference in Davao City last weekend.

I had really planned to go, but during the last few months, we’ve been on the fence about homeschooling. I can talk about the benefits of homeschooling and how homeschooling has helped Yuri grow for hours — and really, I still believe them to be true — but the other side of the truth is that we don’t think it’s going to work for us next year.

Despite the schedule that I had established in the beginning of this school year, we haven’t been able to follow it. Because of my busy schedule, juggling work, real estate events, blogging, family, household chores, and my personal life, homeschooling just slid down the list of my priorities.

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Hear me out. I’m a full-time working single mum whose partner lives and works over 5,000 miles across the globe. I don’t have household help. Everyday I do not only take care of Yuri; I also assist the rest of the family, especially my dad who undergoes dialysis twice a week. I planned to homeschool after work, but most of the time, the only thing I want to do after I’m done with work is to rest.

I don’t think I can do it next year.

Aside from the fact that myΒ katawang lupaΒ just can’t do it anymore, I also thought it would be fair to have Yuri try regular school so he can decide which kind of schooling he prefers in the future. I think it makes sense. Also, I wouldn’t want the kid to suffer from more missed homeschool sessions as I inevitably become busier and busier.

And no, to get it straight, socialisation is not even remotely among my reasons. I still firmly believe that there’s nothing wrong with homeschooling kids with regard to socialisation. If anything, I think my son socialises well with people of all ages! That’s one benefit of homeschooling: it prepares kids for the real world — the real world where you’re not going to be working with people your age all the time.

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Homeschooling isn’t just about writing and reading and ‘rithmetic.

So as much as I would have loved to go, I had to miss the Homeschooling Conference. We already made up our mind and I think it’s futile to have to listen to everything homeschool has to offer — when I already knew all of them and still decided to switch to regular school.

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Yuri’s favourite activity tool: stickers!

Right now, we’re relying more on his Eye Level lessons, and then I just incorporate other lessons whenever I can. Basically, I already threw my pre-planned curriculum right outta window. I don’t think Yuri is at a disadvantage right now because he’s progressed so much since we started, both mentally and emotionally, but my lack of time and energy just wouldn’t cut it next year.

Don’t get me wrong; I am not writing this to discourage other parents from homeschooling. If you want to homeschool, pray about it. Prepare for it. Equip yourself with the right knowledge and the right tools. Surround yourself with people who believe in the same vision.

Yuri and fellow local preschool-homeschooler, Nicey. Her parents own one of our favourite hang-out places, Cafe Annabelle's!

Yuri and fellow local preschool-homeschooler, Nicey. Her parents own one of our favourite hang-out places, Cafe Annabelle’s!

But here’s the one thing that I learned. If you want to homeschool but just can’t do it for reasons, don’t beat yourself up. Homeschooling is just one way of loving and educating your kids. It’s not the be all and end all of parenting. After all, it’s you, the mother, who know your kids best.

So why do I say that I’m on the fence when it sounds as if we’ve already decided? Because anything can happen in the next 6 months.

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24 Comments

  • Reply #gerifiedph November 21, 2016 at 9:01 pm

    I really would love to homeschool my first born, its planned out actually and it didn’t work. Kaya ayun, late na siya ng 1 year, I still squeeze in homeschooling time in form of play and sit-down lessons pero just like you, my katawang lupa can only take so much and apparently, work, home, breastfeeding an infant and homeschooling a toddler is more than what my plate can hold and I have to give up at least one and that is homeschooling. Hopefully, when the infant weans, mahomeschool ko na sila pareho. Best of luck, mommy!

  • Reply Liz A November 22, 2016 at 2:46 am

    I have already made the decision to homeschool my son but like you, I am a single working mom (with no partner in sight, LOL!), trying to juggle work, therapy sessions (my son attends physical and occupational therapy twice a week), and other what-nots. Given the hard-headed person that I am, I am trying to stick to my plan and finding ways to make it work by next year. And I am praying and keeping my fingers (and toes) crossed that I could make it work! I just hope I don’t kill myself in the process. πŸ˜›
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  • Reply Michelle November 22, 2016 at 11:51 pm

    Kudos to homeschooling moms! It’s never easy ah. Unless siguro you’re a stay-at-home-full-time-mom with yaya or partner to help with the chores, then you’d be able to devote full attention and time to homeschooling your little one, noh? But there are some who does it and are successful about it. But if you say na you’re katawang lupa can’t do it anymore, don’t be too hard on yourself. We, moms, need to take care of ourselves, too! And if you ever decide to not homeschool your son by next year, it doesn’t make you less of a mother. Hugs to you, sis! πŸ™‚
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  • Reply Nikole November 23, 2016 at 12:10 am

    Wow, that is a lot on your plate, hello super mom! Anyways, just thinking about homeschooling makes me weak, I mean preparation should be done and lots of patience to actually do it, so congrats to you for trying it out and hopefully whatever your decision will be in the next 6 months for sure it will be for the best πŸ˜ƒ

  • Reply Meg Villamarin-Mortega November 23, 2016 at 1:39 pm

    God bless your decision,Maan. I understand that you only wants the best for Yuri and I am sure everything will be okay.

  • Reply Jhanis November 24, 2016 at 9:48 am

    I really admire parents who homeschool their kids. I used to feel guilty why I can’t do it myself but then I thought long and hard, we do what we can for our kids. If trad school works out best, then it’s what’s best for the moment. πŸ™‚

  • Reply jean November 24, 2016 at 3:38 pm

    Wow it takes a whole lot of energy to do the kind of work you do, especially if your partner is too far to help out. You’re already a great mom for doing everything you can for your son! Homeschooling will still be there as an option whenever you’re ready πŸ™‚

  • Reply May Palacpac November 24, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    I understand you completely. You know, at the end of the day, it’s really the quality of time and attention we give to our kids and our focus in building their character that matter more. I know of people who sent their kids to regular school and their kids are just as exemplary as the brilliant homeschooling kids in our circle. πŸ˜‰
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  • Reply Mommy Levy November 25, 2016 at 9:35 am

    For next year we are considering homeschooling again or to enroll Ren to a bigger school (magkasalungat no?). I salute you for being able to do all those things you have mentioned, grabe ang galing mo.

  • Reply Nerisa November 26, 2016 at 11:45 am

    Salute to all homeschooling parents. Taking care and teaching your kids academically is something you can be proud off.

  • Reply Mayu November 27, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    Hmm.. Maybe you can reconsider other options if it’s what’s best for the kid. Being busy doesn’t mean we need to compromise something, we still have option B to Z! πŸ™‚
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  • Reply Teresa Martinez November 29, 2016 at 10:32 am

    Here’s hoping that you will arrive at the best option for educating your child not only for him but the whole family as well.

  • Reply Melisa Sanchez November 29, 2016 at 3:29 pm

    Your such a good mother to Yuri, I believe that God has a better plan for your son sis. Kahit napakabusy mong tao but still you balance your schedule for your family, work and Yuri.

  • Reply momshouotout December 1, 2016 at 10:16 am

    homeschooling is really not that easy, but you made it mom… you’re the Best

  • Reply Maria Teresa Figuerres December 2, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    You have a lot on your plate, Maan. I think you’re better off sending Yuri to a regular school to lessen your load.
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  • Reply Mommy Queenelizabeth December 2, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    Homeschooling is the trend now but i hadn’t thought about it because my kids were in school eversince.im afraid that they might get problems with adjustments. Maybe on my next son or daughter..

  • Reply Berlin December 2, 2016 at 4:30 pm

    There are sure benefits of homeschooling but regular schooling has its advantages as well. I wasnt aware of homeschooling many years ago thus we enrolled the boys to a Montessori. I didnt regret that decision. The boys are achievers in their own way and I am just so proud of them. For our youngest, I plan to homeschool him seeing the beauty and convenience of it but then again, as youve mentioned, anything can happen in the next six months. And in our case, it is still years as my baby is only 15months old.
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  • Reply Rowena Wendy Lei December 6, 2016 at 8:48 am

    I really admire moms who homeschool. I don’t think I have it in me to do so.
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  • Reply Neri Ann December 7, 2016 at 8:24 am

    I really admire moms who choose to homeschool their kids. I admire their dedication on teaching their children while juggling with work. And I agree with you that we don’t have to force or push ourselves if we can’t do homeschooling.
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  • Reply Joy Domingo Gurtiza December 8, 2016 at 5:05 pm

    I agree! It’s always boils down to what to can manage and beating yourself is a no-no!

  • Reply Gracie December 11, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    I agree, we’re in the stage too of praying if it will work in our family. Like you, we do not have a househelp too. We might end up not being able to finish a lesson the whole year sabi ko kay husband hehe. Ngayon kasi play play lang I’m not sure kapag may curriculum na. πŸ˜‚

  • Reply Louisa December 26, 2016 at 8:34 pm

    We tried homeschooling as well and I found that it could be something I can do if I were not a work at home mom. My teens went to school outside the home and they have thrived. I guess it really depends what you think is best for you and your child. I really admire moms who homeschool and work at home.
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  • Reply Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy January 2, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    With all that you’re juggling, I would think that if it were me I would really have no more energy left to properly stick to a curriculum. It must have been a tough decision to make. In the end though, we wouldn’t want our child’s education to suffer.
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  • Reply Mommy Anna January 9, 2017 at 1:09 pm

    I admire moms who do home school as much as I want to do it I cannot give up my work. But still I am the one who teach him in his assignments and school project kahit pagod na sa work πŸ™‚

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