I missed the local homeschooling conference in Davao City last weekend.
I had really planned to go, but during the last few months, we’ve been on the fence about homeschooling. I can talk about the benefits of homeschooling and how homeschooling has helped Yuri grow for hours — and really, I still believe them to be true — but the other side of the truth is that we don’t think it’s going to work for us next year.
Despite the schedule that I had established in the beginning of this school year, we haven’t been able to follow it. Because of my busy schedule, juggling work, real estate events, blogging, family, household chores, and my personal life, homeschooling just slid down the list of my priorities.
Hear me out. I’m a full-time working single mum whose partner lives and works over 5,000 miles across the globe. I don’t have household help. Everyday I do not only take care of Yuri; I also assist the rest of the family, especially my dad who undergoes dialysis twice a week. I planned to homeschool after work, but most of the time, the only thing I want to do after I’m done with work is to rest.
I don’t think I can do it next year.
Aside from the fact that my katawang lupa just can’t do it anymore, I also thought it would be fair to have Yuri try regular school so he can decide which kind of schooling he prefers in the future. I think it makes sense. Also, I wouldn’t want the kid to suffer from more missed homeschool sessions as I inevitably become busier and busier.
And no, to get it straight, socialisation is not even remotely among my reasons. I still firmly believe that there’s nothing wrong with homeschooling kids with regard to socialisation. If anything, I think my son socialises well with people of all ages! That’s one benefit of homeschooling: it prepares kids for the real world — the real world where you’re not going to be working with people your age all the time.
So as much as I would have loved to go, I had to miss the Homeschooling Conference. We already made up our mind and I think it’s futile to have to listen to everything homeschool has to offer — when I already knew all of them and still decided to switch to regular school.
Right now, we’re relying more on his Eye Level lessons, and then I just incorporate other lessons whenever I can. Basically, I already threw my pre-planned curriculum right outta window. I don’t think Yuri is at a disadvantage right now because he’s progressed so much since we started, both mentally and emotionally, but my lack of time and energy just wouldn’t cut it next year.
Don’t get me wrong; I am not writing this to discourage other parents from homeschooling. If you want to homeschool, pray about it. Prepare for it. Equip yourself with the right knowledge and the right tools. Surround yourself with people who believe in the same vision.
But here’s the one thing that I learned. If you want to homeschool but just can’t do it for reasons, don’t beat yourself up. Homeschooling is just one way of loving and educating your kids. It’s not the be all and end all of parenting. After all, it’s you, the mother, who know your kids best.
So why do I say that I’m on the fence when it sounds as if we’ve already decided? Because anything can happen in the next 6 months.