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A Much Enjoyed Mom’s Day Out, Thanks to Sun Life!

My Saturday morning was hectic. I was due to attend an event — Sun Life’s Mom’s Day Out — right after lunch so all the chores I needed to do needed to be done in the morning. And you know what a school-mom’s Saturday looks like! Laundry, catching up on cleaning, preparing for the weekend… actually scratch that, preparing for the new week ahead! I was so busy Saturday morning that I strained my back.

This mommy got pampered!

Even though my day was full, I knew I wouldn’t miss this event simply because this is an event by a company I truly believe in. Last year, I got myself a VUL (I wrote about my Sun Life VUL recently), and when Job goes home, he’s planning to get one, too. Despite the hectic schedule and the strained back, I think Sun Life’s Mom’s Day Out couldn’t have been scheduled at a better date. I love how I was able to just kick my heels, relax, and de-stress during that day!

Didn’t get the chance to have my OOTD picture taken, but I wore a navy blue cardi (from the dept store), a printed navy blue H&M dress (from my friend, Tine), and Toms shoes

Yuri, with his lolo and lola, dropped me off. No kids allowed! Hehe. He had a fun date with the grandparents

The event was held at Park Inn. I arrived at the venue earlier than the others because it is quite near my home, so I was able to observe. Here are some pictures!

We were treated to a dry massage care of the lovely massage therapists of Elysia. It was just exactly what my sore back needed! We ooh-ed and aah-ed to every knead and I personally felt the stress and pressure of the past week evaporate.

With my newfound friend, Angel!

And just when we thought the pampering sesh was done, it was time to eat! The spread prepared for us was not only pretty but also mouth-watering. I love how dainty — and healthy — the dishes were. I couldn’t pick a favorite because everything tasted good!

My plate!

The Balanced Motherhood

When cocktail time was over, we went back to our seats to prepare for the meat of the event: the talk. First speaker was psychologist, Family Life specialist, and author Michele Alignay

Listening to her speak was a delight! She talked about balanced motherhood and how we, as mothers, should value ourselves and put self-care on top of our priority lists. Because there is nothing to give if we are not full in the first place!

Michele Alignay

The concept may sound foreign, especially if you were raised thinking that mothers are to be completely selfless and self-denying. But here’s a statement that resounded strongly to me:

Self-care is my responsibility and my kid/s will thank me someday for taking care of myself. – Michele Alignay

And isn’t that true? Here are more of my takeaways from Michele’s talk that must be shared:

If you feel like your life needs more balance (or, to be more correct, harmony), you need to re-balance, which entails these three things: perception + emotion + action.


  1. Affirm your goodness
  2. Release control of things beyond you
  3. Saying “no” is okay
  4. Feeling happy and satisfied is normal
  5. Relinquish some tasks that stress you


  1. During emotional highs: pause
  2. Ditch the guilt
  3. Choose to love more (or love from a distance)
  4. Be silly with the kids
  5. Make your marriage matter


  1. Choose to rest or sleep (over cleaning up)
  2. Give yourself an extra 10-minute shower
  3. Put a little color in your face
  4. Find a spot to reflect
  5. Find a daily physical activity

The goal of self-care is to live a balanced life. And a well-balanced mom has more to give! – Michele Alignay

Preparing the way for our kids’ education

To be honest, I thought that having the VUL was enough. It is one of the best financial decisions I have made; however, I admit that I haven’t really given enough thought to Yuri’s education. Job actually talks about Yuri’s college education from time to time, but I thought it was too early to plan.

Mylene Almonte

Well, our second speaker, Sun Life Mindanao’s cluster head Mylene Almonte, proved my presumptions wrong. If there’s a perfect time to start preparing for our son’s (or children’s, who knows?) college education, it is right now. She explained to us the rising cost of college tuition fees and even gave sample projections for the next 10, 15, 20 years. By the time Yuri goes to college, the costs of education are very likely to be astronomical! So dilly-dallying is not an option.

It’s a good thing Sun Life offers an efficient but “friendly” plan, a My Future Fundto help us parents prepare for the future. Here’s what to do:

  1. Set the goal (target date)
  2. Choose the MFF that matures closest to the goal
  3. Pair MFF with a variable life insurance program that suits the budget

It’s efficient because it promises the benefits of good returns beating the inflation rate and professional management. Perfect for mothers like me who don’t have all the time in the world to study the stock market and manage their own portfolios. And it’s friendly because the fund is liquid and you get to decide your target date. I will update you once we get this policy!

Sun Life love!

I truly learned a lot from that afternoon! I gained (pun unintended) friends, insights, and time for myself. I came out of the event refreshed and with a renewed sense of purpose as a parent, as a partner, and as a woman! Thank you so much, Sun Life Financial!

PS: I’m sure you’ve seen Sun Shorts videos on Facebook! If you’re a mom like me, you absolutely need to watch this video to tug on your heartstrings.

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  • Reply Janice August 10, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    You’re so lucky you got pampered that day! I need some pampering too. Haha! But seriously, we also need to think about our sons’ college education. Will definitely check out that My Future Fund.

  • Reply Nerisa August 12, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    Mommies need their day out talaga. Pampering moms are much needed in every mom’s schedule. Good thing you had one. And good thing Sun Life gives this type of pampering for moms.

  • Reply Angel Caronongan-Enero August 13, 2017 at 10:34 pm

    I badly need a mom’s day out. Lucky you for attending this kind of event. Aww.. Thank you for sharing the”PERCEPTIONS, EMOTIONS, ACTIONS”. I agree to “The goal of self-care is to live a balanced life. And a well-balanced mom has more to give!” Minsan, nakakaguilty talaga if may mom’s day out pero us moms really needs a balanced life. A little me time or couple time is a good thing talaga.

  • Reply Melisa August 14, 2017 at 9:06 am

    Oh I love this! ganyan nga dapat. Kahit gaano ka busy ang life natin bilang mommy sa work sa bahay sa anak bigyan parin natin ng oras ang sarili natin. Matagal ko na to gustong magpa massage hanggang ngayon di ko pa din magawa-gawa kahit ang pagpunta ng salon 🙁

  • Reply Shalene R August 14, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    Yung food kaagad yung nakita ko hahaha!

    Self-care is really important. There were times that I forgot to take care of myself, and I ended up in the hospital. And I think self-care isn’t only physical, pati emotional and mental. When you feel your best, you can do almost anything. Even a simple massage can do wonders to our well-being. Speaking of massage, I think I need one kasi kakaiba ang panahon ngayon, init-lamig! 🙂

  • Reply dory August 15, 2017 at 7:38 am

    I need this talaga, planning to pamper myself coz wala naman events like this here where I can avail free mom pampering

  • Reply EINz August 17, 2017 at 8:48 am

    I also attended Sunlife’s Moms Day Out with my mommy friends from school. And its truly relaxing that we decided to have more of this, even once in a while. We got pampered for a full body massage plus dinner buffet. And the parenting talk help us realized the importance of a balanced life and take good care of ourselves more, so we can give more to our family.

  • Reply Berlin | Momi Berlin November 3, 2017 at 10:32 am

    This event seems to be something most moms would look forward to. Too sad when I got the invite, I was busy with family then. I hope Sun Life would offer more of this type of pampering events because not all moms find time to give themselves a break.

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