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Introducing: A Joyful Mess

Hello! Welcome to my new online home. I call it “A Joyful Mess,” and I want it to be a blog that is truly me.

Why Joyful Mess

I’m a messy person. I may have a bit of an OCD, but I am no grace under pressure, I don’t have the gift to “whip things into shape,” unless you’re talking about something virtual, and I am no Martha Stewart. Even my bun is a mess.

But having a type-A personality made me hate this aspect of myself. I want everything to be perfect and in order. Two things made me realise that the mess will always be part of life – of my life. I first realised that when I became a Christian and made the decision to make Jesus the centrepiece of my life.

However, because I was (still am) working, I slipped into my old neat-freak, perfectionist ways. Then I was reminded about it when I became a mother.

Have you noticed that we are not born with the instinct to clean up but rather the instict to make a mess? To dig, throw, discover?

There is truly nothing wrong with order. The problem is the obsession with order. It becomes a problem when you refuse to step out of your comfort zone, when you stop living your life to avoid making a mess. So instead of always telling my son, Yuri, to not make so much clutter, I have decided to welcome it as part of his young life. He will never learn about anything if the books stay in the shelves and the toys in the closet.

And instead of berating myself when I mess up, I thank heavens that I am one messy, messed up person because it means I need God’s grace to give order to my cluttered life. I thank God that I need to depend on him because in my weakness, he is strong. I am learning that there is joy in the mess.

Now I welcome and embrace the clutter and hope to document my messy life here.

What about my old blog

Perhaps a lot of you know that I used to blog in davaomommy.com. It’s still up and running now, but I have felt the need to “rebrand” and start anew since last year. The reason is that I felt the blog name itself was too cold and sterile and, honestly, didn’t evoke any emotion.

I wanted a more personal blog, one that sounds more introspective than informative.

I chose to start all over again. Instead of just migrating my entire blog to a new domain name, I decided to let it live for two reasons. First, Davao Mommy was the product of more than 2 years of hard work. I couldn’t just remove it from the blogosphere, so I would let it run until its natural death.

Second, it’s just too taxing and frustrating to migrate a blog, fix pictures, change tags and categories to reflect the new blog’s etcetera etcetera. I couldn’t be bothered.

I hope you accompany me on this new adventure!

Beginning again is a big deal for me. I have backed out several times because I wasn’t sure the time and effort would be worth it. All the work I’ve done on my previous blog will now go to waste (hopefully not). All the connections I’ve made, I may or may not take with me to this new home.

But I’ve never felt as confident as I do now. I feel like I’ve made the right decision: both to make a new home and to start from ground up.

This may be worth it after all.

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21 Comments

  • Reply Grace July 1, 2015 at 11:40 am

    I for one, will surely look out for your future blog posts. It’s nice to know that moms like us have a place online where we can all share and relate. Goodluck on your new blog Ms. Maan.

    • Reply Maan July 1, 2015 at 5:58 pm

      Thank you, Grace! It’s tough to start all over again, but it’s also a nice feeling!

  • Reply MrsMartinez July 1, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    I did just that over a year ago. Now I am more happy and contented with my new blog. In my old blog I am more competitive about stats etc. Now I am more relaxed. Cool lang hehe

    Congratulations on your new adventure.

    xoxo
    MrsMartinez

    • Reply Maan July 2, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      Thank you, Ms Michelle! That’s one of the reasons din why I wanted to start fresh. I’m so tired of looking at my stats whenever I blog!

  • Reply Rikx Redrico July 2, 2015 at 2:30 am

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you! I’ll wait for your future blog posts. Change is really constant and I know you’ll benefit from this REAL soon. :*

    • Reply Maan July 2, 2015 at 4:27 pm

      Thanks, Rikx! Even if I’m literally at level zero now, I’m happy!

  • Reply Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy July 2, 2015 at 9:09 am

    Hello hello hello! 🙂 I’m glad to have reached your new “messy” home. Don’t worry, we don’t mind the mess, we find it joyful too! Looking forward to reading more posts from you!
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    • Reply Maan July 2, 2015 at 4:28 pm

      I’m happy you share the same mindset as me! Let’s welcome more messy happiness!

  • Reply Louisa July 2, 2015 at 7:06 pm

    Looking forward to reading more of your posts in your new home!
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    • Reply Maan July 7, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      Thank you!

  • Reply Jennifer Villanueva July 2, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    Change is always a good thing! I am also considering a total blog make-over, hopefully by september… congrats and goodluck on your new slate!

    • Reply Maan July 7, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      It’s not an easy decision but I say you go for it!

  • Reply Tetcha Figuerres July 3, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    I love the blog name and the reason behind it. Looking forward to reading your Joyful Mess stories.
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    • Reply Maan July 7, 2015 at 3:38 pm

      Haha thanks Ms. T 🙂

  • Reply Celerhina Aubrey ★ July 3, 2015 at 7:08 pm

    Hey Maan!! We missed you on the blogosphere and congrats on this brand spanking new blog. 🙂
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    • Reply Maan July 7, 2015 at 3:39 pm

      Awwww thank you!

  • Reply Pam / Hey, Miss Adventures!o July 4, 2015 at 10:38 am

    Maan, congratulations on the new blog! Another blog to add to my regularly-visited list! 🙂
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    • Reply Maan July 7, 2015 at 3:40 pm

      Thank you so much for blogging about Coffee Mags!

  • Reply Millie July 5, 2015 at 6:53 am

    Yay, congratulations, Maan! Well, I am looking forward in reading your new adventures, etc. 🙂

    All the best, Maan!

    • Reply Maan July 7, 2015 at 3:41 pm

      Thank you so much Millie!

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