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Help-Less Once Again!

Hello, it’s me, your help-less friend!

As you might have probably guessed, yes, I don’t have a helper again. Michelle stayed with us for just a little over 4 months, and while we have had some complaints (who doesn’t, really?) about her work, her stay with us was generally pleasant. In fact, she’s really a pleasant person to be around with, and, thankfully, her last day was devoid of drama. Totally unlike our last favouriiiiite yaya! 😛

(Update about the ex-yaya who had brought so much trouble to our lives: her amo’s finally sent her away just last week! Finally, nagising din sa katotohanan! Good riddance indeed.)

Anyway, back to Michelle. I’m really glad that she was with us during the time Papa got confined in the hospital. She was such a big help. We have parted ways on good terms and I couldn’t be happier.

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Wee!

BUT

Now I’m help-less again. I’m torn between getting a new helper (#workingsinglemumproblems) and, you know, having an extra hand in the house but not having privacy again (a big issue) and not getting a new one, depending on ourselves, and saving money in the process.

Going on without a helper was a lot easier the other year when I didn’t have a regular work schedule. But last year, a helper was a huge help — you know how awesome it is to have lunch ready when you’re taking a break from work? Yes, awesome indeed. It’s also nice to see clean floors and folded laundry. So nice.

Now it’s going to be a big change again. We’re going to cook our own meals again, vacuum, wash our clothes (or maybe we’ll go back to our favourite neighbourhood laundry shop again). I’m sorry if I sound privileged – I am not. I grew up not having a helper at all. I grew up cleaning the house, washing dishes, washing my clothes, et cetera.

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But times are different now. Everyone is so busy and I have a toddler to attend to while working full-time. Papa is still sick and undergoes dialysis twice a week. Mama must be twice as busy as me, with work, purok leader duties, a middle-schooler (my sister) to attend to, plus a sick husband to boot. An extra hand is always welcome.

On the other hand, I can think of how much I can save if I don’t hire a new helper. It would be a considerable amount and would be very helpful, too, since Yuri will be starting school this June. So maybe we’ll go help-less again. After all, we were – and will be – able to manage.

At the end of the day, dirty floors won’t hurt me! 😛

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29 Comments

  • Reply Lady Anne Louise Barrun January 18, 2016 at 9:29 am

    Wishing for your father to get well soon. It’s really a huge help to have a helper at home. I had never experienced having our own helper because my mom stays at home and I am also afraid to hire people we barely knew. I hope everything falls into place for you and for your family.
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    • Reply Maan January 19, 2016 at 3:42 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m sure everything will fall into place para sa ating lahat 🙂

  • Reply berlin January 18, 2016 at 9:48 am

    Same here, wishing your father to get well soon. We also do not have yaya; about three years na ata. Because we do not have a helper, the boys have become more independent. When I was still working full time, I leave earlier than them so they need to close the door, wash their own plates, and check that everything is ok before leaving for school. Now that I am home and looking after them full time (I resigned from work), they still help me with the cleaning, laundry, etc. Their toka at home is still the same and they still do them without me asking for help.

    • Reply Maan January 19, 2016 at 3:42 pm

      I love that my son is becoming independent, too! Of course he’s still too small to help with the major chores but at least he can “take care” of himself na.

  • Reply Pearliza Paguio January 18, 2016 at 11:29 am

    Hoping for your father’s fast recovery. I feel you, the struggle is real talaga. I don’t work, i’m a full time mom pero 3 ang kids ko and wala kame helper ever since ang hirap talaga pero after hearing a lot of yaya issues especially coming from a close friend (nakailang yaya na rin sila eh at hindi nagtatagal)I don’t think we’ll be needing one anytime soon kahit i haven’t experienced it myself nakakatrauma mga stories hehe. anyway hope all turns out well for you and your family. God bless

    • Reply Maan January 19, 2016 at 3:44 pm

      Naku I never had a yaya after our traumatic experience more than a year ago! Michelle naman was tasked to just take care of the house, not my son — I’ll probably never get a yaya again!

  • Reply celin mendoza January 18, 2016 at 4:24 pm

    Oh shoot! We are in the same situation Mommy =(. My househelp is on vacation, and I’m here all alone with my three kids at malapit nang maloka haha. I’m on leave for 4 days now and yaya is not answering her phone anymore so hoping for a divine intervention here. My dad is also sick, but recuperating right now. Hope we can get through this journey. Cheers!

    • Reply Maan January 19, 2016 at 3:44 pm

      ZOMG! Naku mas mahirap ata yan, yung floating. Buti yung helper namin, nagpaalam. But we’ll get through this I’m sure! Aja!

  • Reply Louisa January 18, 2016 at 8:16 pm

    I have never had help but that has been my preference. Things always seemed to work out for me though. Now that I’m a WAHM I’m all the more thankful because I get to be with my little guy.
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    • Reply Maan January 19, 2016 at 3:46 pm

      I grew up without a helper but now the situation is more complicated. I’ve decided not to get a new helper though.

  • Reply TweenselMom January 19, 2016 at 9:38 am

    You are one messy mom na maganda :-)I once had help when I was still working in Globe Telecom. But when I came home na ayaw ni Mariel na magpakarga sakin, mas gusto sa yaya, I cried. But I did not resign then and there. The situations just led me to stay at home and take care of the kids. If you think you can get good help and you won’t feel guilty for anything, why not?
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    • Reply Maan January 19, 2016 at 3:41 pm

      Ay napa-smile ako sa comment nyo. Thank you for making my day! I will always think that a home without a helper is the most ideal situation, but sometimes, desperate times call for desperate measures? LOL. Kakayanin ko to! 😀 XOXO
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  • Reply Eens Gonzales January 19, 2016 at 6:21 pm

    Sorry about your father, hope he gets well. I am a mother of two, works full-time, just blessed to have my parents with them while I work weekdays and some lakwatsa moments. Everything will be okay. 🙂

  • Reply Kim @ Mom On Duty January 19, 2016 at 8:00 pm

    The husband was recently re-assigned to another station that’s hours away from our home so I went CRAZY two weeks ago. As in, di ko na alam gagawin ko. I have work, I have one preschooler that I drive to school each day, I have a 3-year old that I’m preparing for preschool next school year, and there’s house work. I was at the verge of hiring help since I’m geographically single again, but after a week, I got a hang of it. I still don’t know how I do it, but I did it! Two toddlers, no missed meals, full-time work = I conquered all these! (Though it would be nice to have folded laundry… haha) Hindi ko lang talaga ma-sacrifice yung privacy and personal space ko so I guess that’s why I’m fighting the urge to get help.

  • Reply Lani Banzon January 20, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    I know how you feel. The last time that we had a helper was when my 4th child is just 1 y/o. We’ve decided not get a helper anymore. I have 5 kids & my youngest is only 5, while my eldest is 23. i work at night & it’s really hard because my kids are suffering because of my schedule. If my husband will now agree to get a helper it will be big relief for all of us.

  • Reply Mhaan Arambulo (@momyrockinstyle) January 21, 2016 at 9:39 am

    Awww sad naman but as you’ve said, you were and will still able to manage. Aja lang! 🙂
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  • Reply Janice January 21, 2016 at 10:19 am

    I know the feeling, Maan. No matter what you decide to do, whether you hire again or not, I’m sure you’ll do the best thing for you and your family. I hope you’re father gets better soon. 🙂

  • Reply Mommy Pehpot January 21, 2016 at 11:34 am

    First of all, get well soon you your father..

    As with being help-less, I know you can do that.. sabi mo nga dirty floors won’t hurt you (huwag lang building blocks ang nasa floor haha)

    Pero masarap pa din may yaya ka.. I just hired a new stay in maliban pa sa stay out ko.. so sometimes I feel like donya na turo lang ng turo ng gagawin nila 🙂

    • Reply Maan January 24, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      Ayoko talaga ng Legos sa floor huhu. Nakakamiss din, but it’s not easy to find a good helper or yaya! (Mas lalo na sa yaya)

  • Reply Rhoda Fajardo January 21, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    I’m starting to have yaya issues too. Nagpapaalam na yung nagaalaga sa mga anak ko. I’m not employed anymore and I’m a full-time network marketer and freelance architect. I don’t know what I’d do without household help.

    Hoping for your father’s recovery. God bless your family.

  • Reply Rowena Wendy Lei January 21, 2016 at 9:23 pm

    Since I’m a working mom I can’t imagine being without a helper. But it’s so hard to find decent ones these days!
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  • Reply Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy January 21, 2016 at 10:40 pm

    Our helper also just left after 3 months of work with us. Hay. She was so good pa naman. Too good to be true I guess. Hehe. Hope you’ll find your answer soon whether to get a new one or not. Hope your father gets better too. 🙂
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  • Reply MrsMartinez January 22, 2016 at 10:43 am

    I know how you feel. I have been without a helper (my choice!) for a couple of months now. Our life is rather peaceful without any helper around haha

    Xoxo
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  • Reply Ayi January 23, 2016 at 8:17 am

    Not to sound maarte but I really need a helper to make my life easier and more organized. I just can’t manage everything in my plate especially with two little kids towing along :)) So far, I only have one all-around and I just ask my mom’s helpers for extra hands if I need to be somewhere. Hehehe. I hope your father gets well soon 🙂
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    • Reply Maan January 24, 2016 at 6:56 pm

      You don’t sound maarte at all – I feel you!

  • Reply jennifer villanueva January 26, 2016 at 10:04 pm

    i think most of the time having no yaya turns out to be a blessing in disguise for some people (at least those i know), myself included, theree may be pros and cons but generally it teaches both you and your child to become more independent. everything else can be worked out naman, some may just take a little time, but that feeling is way better than having someone you cannot trust. (parang may pinagdaanan ako ha) well. that’s another story.
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  • Reply Mommy levy January 27, 2016 at 8:48 pm

    I decided to be a stay at home mom kasi ang hirap ng walang makuhang matinong helper. I hope you can find a good one soon.

  • Reply Jackie January 29, 2016 at 10:42 pm

    Ang hirap 🙁 But if you plan on finding one I hope you can find a good one. If not naman, I can tell you from experience (I’m based in Korea and have no yaya or helper either) that your son will grow up more independent and even more helpful around the house. My daughter (2yo) is the same way. 2 pa lang sya but she’s helping me na as much as she can (or she thinks she’s helping anyway hihi) with the house chores and caring for her baby sister. Kaya mo yan 🙂
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  • Reply Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen February 1, 2016 at 5:25 am

    We’ve been help-less too for a long time now. Our house is a mess but the peace of mind is great so far. No worries na baka may mawalang bagay.

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