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A Much Enjoyed Mom’s Day Out, Thanks to Sun Life!

My Saturday morning was hectic. I was due to attend an event — Sun Life’s Mom’s Day Out — right after lunch so all the chores I needed to do needed to be done in the morning. And you know what a school-mom’s Saturday looks like! Laundry, catching up on cleaning, preparing for the weekend… actually scratch that, preparing for the new week ahead! I was so busy Saturday morning that I strained my back.

This mommy got pampered!

Even though my day was full, I knew I wouldn’t miss this event simply because this is an event by a company I truly believe in. Last year, I got myself a VUL (I wrote about my Sun Life VUL recently), and when Job goes home, he’s planning to get one, too. Despite the hectic schedule and the strained back, I think Sun Life’s Mom’s Day Out couldn’t have been scheduled at a better date. I love how I was able to just kick my heels, relax, and de-stress during that day!

Didn’t get the chance to have my OOTD picture taken, but I wore a navy blue cardi (from the dept store), a printed navy blue H&M dress (from my friend, Tine), and Toms shoes

Yuri, with his lolo and lola, dropped me off. No kids allowed! Hehe. He had a fun date with the grandparents

The event was held at Park Inn. I arrived at the venue earlier than the others because it is quite near my home, so I was able to observe. Here are some pictures!

We were treated to a dry massage care of the lovely massage therapists of Elysia. It was just exactly what my sore back needed! We ooh-ed and aah-ed to every knead and I personally felt the stress and pressure of the past week evaporate.

With my newfound friend, Angel!

And just when we thought the pampering sesh was done, it was time to eat! The spread prepared for us was not only pretty but also mouth-watering. I love how dainty — and healthy — the dishes were. I couldn’t pick a favorite because everything tasted good!

My plate!

The Balanced Motherhood

When cocktail time was over, we went back to our seats to prepare for the meat of the event: the talk. First speaker was psychologist, Family Life specialist, and author Michele Alignay

Listening to her speak was a delight! She talked about balanced motherhood and how we, as mothers, should value ourselves and put self-care on top of our priority lists. Because there is nothing to give if we are not full in the first place!

Michele Alignay

The concept may sound foreign, especially if you were raised thinking that mothers are to be completely selfless and self-denying. But here’s a statement that resounded strongly to me:

Self-care is my responsibility and my kid/s will thank me someday for taking care of myself. – Michele Alignay

And isn’t that true? Here are more of my takeaways from Michele’s talk that must be shared:

If you feel like your life needs more balance (or, to be more correct, harmony), you need to re-balance, which entails these three things: perception + emotion + action.

PERCEPTION

  1. Affirm your goodness
  2. Release control of things beyond you
  3. Saying “no” is okay
  4. Feeling happy and satisfied is normal
  5. Relinquish some tasks that stress you

EMOTIONS

  1. During emotional highs: pause
  2. Ditch the guilt
  3. Choose to love more (or love from a distance)
  4. Be silly with the kids
  5. Make your marriage matter

ACTIONS

  1. Choose to rest or sleep (over cleaning up)
  2. Give yourself an extra 10-minute shower
  3. Put a little color in your face
  4. Find a spot to reflect
  5. Find a daily physical activity

The goal of self-care is to live a balanced life. And a well-balanced mom has more to give! – Michele Alignay

Preparing the way for our kids’ education

To be honest, I thought that having the VUL was enough. It is one of the best financial decisions I have made; however, I admit that I haven’t really given enough thought to Yuri’s education. Job actually talks about Yuri’s college education from time to time, but I thought it was too early to plan.

Mylene Almonte

Well, our second speaker, Sun Life Mindanao’s cluster head Mylene Almonte, proved my presumptions wrong. If there’s a perfect time to start preparing for our son’s (or children’s, who knows?) college education, it is right now. She explained to us the rising cost of college tuition fees and even gave sample projections for the next 10, 15, 20 years. By the time Yuri goes to college, the costs of education are very likely to be astronomical! So dilly-dallying is not an option.

It’s a good thing Sun Life offers an efficient but “friendly” plan, a My Future Fundto help us parents prepare for the future. Here’s what to do:

  1. Set the goal (target date)
  2. Choose the MFF that matures closest to the goal
  3. Pair MFF with a variable life insurance program that suits the budget

It’s efficient because it promises the benefits of good returns beating the inflation rate and professional management. Perfect for mothers like me who don’t have all the time in the world to study the stock market and manage their own portfolios. And it’s friendly because the fund is liquid and you get to decide your target date. I will update you once we get this policy!

Sun Life love!


I truly learned a lot from that afternoon! I gained (pun unintended) friends, insights, and time for myself. I came out of the event refreshed and with a renewed sense of purpose as a parent, as a partner, and as a woman! Thank you so much, Sun Life Financial!

PS: I’m sure you’ve seen Sun Shorts videos on Facebook! If you’re a mom like me, you absolutely need to watch this video to tug on your heartstrings.

Messy Wins Personal

Level-Up Adulting Part 1: Getting My Driver’s License

I honestly never thought I’d get both a driver’s license and an insurance policy at age 26.

I know 26 is not too young of an age to get both; in fact, I think 26 is on the older side of the spectrum to get a driver’s permit for the first time  hehe. I’ll explain.

Messy Success 1: How I Got My Driver’s License

First, I never planned to get a car this year, much less a driver’s license. I mean, I know one doesn’t necessarily have to own a car in order to get a driving permit, but for me, what’s the use of it when I won’t be using it anyway? It just didn’t make sense. But this year, I did not only get a car but also enrolled in a driving school, learned to drive, and successfully got a license.

I took a leave from work last Tuesday in order to process my permit at the LTO. I arrived there 10 minutes after 8 and the line was already loooong. So if you want to avoid the lines, go there early. Really early. Like before 7 early. LTO Davao is quite efficient, in my opinion, but there were really a lot of people before me (more than 60, I think?), so it still took a good hour before I was finally able to enter the examination room.  Continue Reading

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The Messy Life Lately: Good Sign, Ingrid, and Lines to Riyadh

I apologise for not writing! Life has been soooo busy lately. I’ll assume you’re the tiniest bit interested in what’s going on in my life so I’ll let you know. Lol you have no choice. Anyway, let’s start with the not-so-good news…

Papa’s Hospitalisation

Papa got hospitalised again. He slipped and fell in the bathroom when he went in to pee dawn of Tuesday morning. We wanted to take him to the hospital right there and then but he insisted he was fine (save for the big-as-an-egg lump on his head) and doesn’t need to be checked. Because my dad has a looong history of being stubborn, we decided to wait.

We did things normally over the past weekend. The little boy even got a second haircut from Cuts

We did things normally over the past weekend. The little boy even got a second haircut from Fun Cuts Just 4 Tots (same shirt and I didn’t even notice haha).

We figured since he’s going to undertake another round of dialysis in a day anyway, the doctor could maybe see if anything was wrong. He went on to have his dialysis without any problem.

But by Friday, he was asking to be taken to the doctor because he’s been having persistent headaches and was feeling dizzy all the time. My mum took him to the hospital for a checkup, but the doctor recommended him to undergo a CT scan because it is possible that he had a mild stroke (again) when he fell. So he had to be confined.

I won’t anymore go into details (since it’s been a pretty uneventful hospital stay, thank God), but he got discharged yesterday afternoon and the results show that he did have a mild stroke. Thank God he did not suffer any big repercussion aside from the constant dizziness. It’s almost like he didn’t have one, but we all need to be really careful next time.

Me, the Student Driver

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Throwback to this post I wrote more than a month ago. One of the goals I wanted to accomplish before the year ends is to learn how to drive, so I enrolled myself in driving lessons (didn’t really trust myself with anyone short of a professional teacher – I’m afraid their patience would wear thin with me) in Good Sign driving school last month. I basically know how to drive now but I still need to practice more!

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Jobs’ Life Lately

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Messy Wins OFW-Partner Personal

A Whole New, Err, Chapter

Riyadh OFW

This week flew by like a whirlwind for me.

We spent last Saturday in Madaum, in a well-known resort called Banana Beach (I’ll write about it sometime soon — I haven’t even written about my Maragusan trip more than a month ago boohoo). Sunday was a bit of shopping and ~some~ eating and a lot of KSA crash-coursing with Job.

Only very few people know this, but I’m sharing the news with you. Job is officially an OFW as of today. Well, he technically hasn’t started work yet, but he’s already there so. Anyway. He arrived in Riyadh last night, 10 pm our time/ 5 pm KSA time. I actually barraged Nilyn of Above Precious Rubies with questions last week lol as her husband works in Riyadh, too.  Thanks Nilyn, super!

As of this morning, he was still staying in a hotel, but now he’s on the road. I don’t have any pictures of him there yet because he still hasn’t found a stable internet connection, whether wi-fi or mobile data.

We’re both half-excited and half-anxious but he’s been looking forward to this for months now so it’s more of excitement. He left his decent-paying job here to accept a job offer in Riyadh and makipagsapalaran; we pray that he will flourish there not only as a worker but also as a person. But it was a long and hard journey, especially for him.

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Mixed Mess: Whirlwind Week + Travel Itch + Other Stories

Travel Bug

Oh my goodness, the week is finally coming to an end! And I survived it!

I’ve been having straight busy weeks for some time now, but this week is a different kind of hectic because our family has to deal with a sickness, too. However, work was very hectic this week, too. Aside from training our 3 new hires, I myself have to learn new tasks. On top of that, everyone, especially the staff from Australia, seems to be getting sick. Even my co-pilot Lenz had to miss work the other day because she had a fever – and she’s absent again today because she’s going to Camiguin. Life is fair!

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Messy Wins: Our First Outing and My Licence

PRC License - Real Estate Broker

I was tempted to call this new section of my blog “Wins of the Day” if not for fear of my (remote) officemates stumbling upon this and laughing. How very office lingo-ish!

Anyway, whew, what a week this has been — so far!

Weekend Plans with my (Remote) Officemates

I’ve been busy, but the wonderful, happy kind of busy. While we’re still like bumblebees at work, this week was slightly different because we’re also planning for — guess what — an office outing!

Meh. What’s so exciting about that?

If that’s your reaction, I’m sure you’re not a WAHM or a remote worker!

Ever since I resigned from an office-based job in 2012, I had never joined a company outing of any sort. I’ve worked freelance from 2012 to early this year, and while we had an office here in the country, it was based in Manila and I was never able to join any company get-together. Basically, for more than 3 years, the only trips I’ve joined were the ones with my family and friends! So excuse me for feeling like a hermit haha!

Another thing that makes me excited for the weekend is that despite working with each other for months now, talking everyday (even on weekends), and seeing each other on Skype, this is the first time we’ll ever see each other in. the. flesh. I’m kinda sad I had to be fat this year, but hey, it’s not our last meeting either. 😛

I’ve been busy because I’ve been organising the whole trip. I didn’t anticipate that this weekend will be Kadayawan weekend (I thought that was last weekend – forgive me), so the resort we wanted to stay in was fully booked. The room we wanted was already reserved. However, do not underestimate the power of a girl in need. With much pleading and promising that I’ll pay ASAP, the reservation was finally given to us.

(In my defence, the original group who reserved the coveted room still hasn’t paid the required deposit so it’s not as if I sabotaged them or anything.)

Hey paradise, see you this weekend! (Image from Trip Advisor)

Yesterday afternoon, I immediately went to the bank to deposit the money to the resort’s bank account but not before I went to the PRC to claim my…

Real Estate Broker’s Licence

Yay it’s finally here! It’s not as if we were made to wait for a long time – on the contrary, the IDs were ready long before our expected time, which was 3 months – but I’m still giddy to finally get my hands on it. I know this will be the third time I’ll be using this word in the same paragraph, but finally, I now feel like an actual licensed real estate broker! I would plug our website here, but it’s still unfinished so… Hee hee.

PRC License - Real Estate Broker

These are two of my messy wins for the week. I actually have more, but I can’t write them here yet! Now I’d like to hear about your wins. How has your week been so far?