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5 Reasons Why WAHMs Must Take Kulitan Breaks With Their Kids

5 Reasons Why WAHMs Must Take Kulitan Breaks With Their Kids

I am a bona fide WAHM.

It’s been seven years since I started working from home, but there’s one thing I’m still mastering: the art of work-life balance.

It sounds like a no-brainer. I’m working and at the same time, I’m at home, so work-life balance must come naturally, right? How I wish it was that easy! When you’re a WAHM, the divide between work and, well, life easily gets blurred. There are times when I can’t stop working even when it’s already beyond working hours. And then there are also days when I barely pay attention to my child because I’m chasing the deadline.

5 Reasons Why WAHMs Must Take Kulitan Breaks With Their Kids

I usually work from our home office (you know, with an actual desk), but it gets too cold there nowadays so I elect to work in the living room instead!

The guilt is double on my part because Yuri’s dad works abroad — time zone difference between Philippines and KSA is 5 hours so by the time Job gets off work, Yuri is already fast asleep. Because Job can’t spend time with Yuri as often as he wants to, I need to be Yuri’s mum and dad at the same time.

This year, I resolve to put my family first. It’s not going to change overnight, but it’s going to have to start from somewhere. I chose to start by doing one simple thing: stopping work to have kulitan breaks with Yuri every now and then. I started doing it last month and I’ve never felt better!

There are no rules. Kulitan break simply means lambingan, landian, harutan! We don’t have to do anything. We can eat if we want to, or cuddle if we want to, or take a short walk if we want to. If you’re a WAHM, here are 5 reasons why you must take kulitan breaks, too.

1. It improves productivity.

Confession time! I’m a Type A personality, and I feel like I have to do everything on time and perfectly. I felt like doing constant breaks doing nothing (at least, that’s what I used to think) ruins my schedule, which is oftentimes rigidly organised. Until I started doing kulitan breaks. Each time I go back to work after even just cuddling with my child, my mind feels a hundred times more refreshed! Because my mind is refreshed and my body is relaxed, I am able to focus on the tasks at hand at be more productive.

And I have time for my hobbies now, too!

 2. It is a good stress-reliever.

Work is sometimes stressful. As I get older, stress begins to take a toll on my body. In fact, a couple of weeks ago, I had vertigo for the first time in my life — and that’s not including the IBS, allergies, and lactose intolerance. Gasp! But with a constant kulitan break with my 4-year old, I find it easier to forget about the stressful stuff. Going back to number one, instead of being stressed, my productivity level gets a boost so I don’t have to worry about stuff!

With a face like this greeting me every day, what’s there to stress about?

3. It’s a good excuse to get out of the house!

I love rainy days just as much as the next girl, but it keeps us from doing outdoor activities. During the summer time, Yuri and I enjoy taking walks around our quiet village, but we haven’t been able to do that for some time now because it rains every day. But WAHMs, you need to get out of the house and get some fresh air in your system! I myself feel trapped when I’m inside the house for too long. Since it’s always raining, we simply have my older brother drive us around or take us to the nearest drive-through for some comfort food fix!

(My brother is Yuri’s driver of choice instead of me because he wants me to be seated at the back with him #demoted)

4. It helps us know our kids better.

My son loves to laugh. He’s sensitive but he rarely gets angry. He’s also talkative and oozing with confidence! But he’s really shy around new people, so I think he might be an ambivert? Now that my four-year old (almost 5-year old!) is showing his personality, I am enjoying the reveal. I relish the facets of his personality that I discover every day, and the things I discover during kulitan breaks are invaluable.

5. It helps us grow as parents.

It feels good — and it makes your kids feel good. It sounds great, but it’s actually challenging because, let’s be honest, our kids are not immaculate angels all the time. Kulitan breaks sound wonderful, but there are days when kulitan and lambingan take more effort than usual.

No makeup, no problem. Messy hair don’t care!

But a WAHM must resolve to spend time with her child even on days when she doesn’t have the time or energy or the motivation to do it! Even on days when you don’t feel like doing so, even on days when you think you simply do not have time to get away from the keyboard.

Yes, even on days when your child seems naughtier than nice! Even on frustrating days when they seem to be not listening or following. Even on days when their curiosity gets the better of them. Remember that whether they finish first, last, or not at all, for us parents, our kids are the best. Whether they sit down nicely to do art or run like a tornado and leave a devastation behind, our kids are learning. 

(This reminds me of McDo’s latest commercial that actually brought tears to my eyes. Mahal pa rin ni nanay at tatay indeed!)

And neither their child-like behaviour nor their performance must dictate how we show them our love. Our kids are being just that, kids! So let’s allow them to have fun, explore things, make mistakes, make a mess! Let’s show them that time spent with them is much more precious than time spent on doing work.

You never know how much a 10-minute kulitan break with his mum (and dad!) means to a child.

Blogger disclosure: This post is sponsored by McDonald’s.
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28 Comments

  • Reply Jen Ubongen February 7, 2017 at 11:31 am

    I can relate with the kulitan breaks. Im a SAHM, and though I have lots and lots of tasks to do, I can never exchange the time i get to bite my son’s bum bum, or tickle him on his neck and tummy, or just simply grab and embrace him. These are the precious time for us moms that we need to cherish, for all we know, time flies.. sooner or later, they’re all grown ups 😉

  • Reply Kim @ Mom On Duty February 8, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    I make sure I have kulitan breaks with my kids, too. I also recently implemented a work schedule so I don’t go beyond my work hours. It’s really tempting kasi to keep working when you work at home!

  • Reply Coi February 9, 2017 at 10:07 am

    I agree with everything you said, I used to be a WAHM, and being in front of the PC for so long is so stressful! Haha! Having kulitan breaks with our little one really helps. Nagiging mas productive talaga! Parang uminom ng energy drink hehehe! 🙂
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  • Reply Ceemee February 9, 2017 at 4:44 pm

    I wish I could be a WAHM, too. But, even when I’m just blogging, I can be so absorbed that I forget to have downtime with the children. This is a good reminder!

  • Reply Jhanis February 9, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    Hats off to you mama! Juggling a career and parenting can be tough, we just need to make the best out of it. 🙂 I wanna be a wahm in the future, too. Kelan kaya. Sigh.
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  • Reply Mommy Levy February 9, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    I love this commercial, nakaka touch talaga. I think I’m an ambivert too.

  • Reply Juvy Ann February 9, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    Time for your family should never be compromised. I am a full time employee and no matter how busy things get at work, I never bring it home. Night time and weekends is dedicated to them.

  • Reply Alaine February 10, 2017 at 2:53 am

    Mcdonald’s always come up with good commercials. Nothing but love and respect for SAHM.:)
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  • Reply lariza garcia February 10, 2017 at 3:13 pm

    we work because we want to provide for our kids
    useless ang kita kung di naman natin sila nakikita
    hehehehe so spend time as much as you can , kasi mabilis ang panahon
    lalaki agad ang mga anak natin

  • Reply Michelle February 10, 2017 at 11:31 pm

    Aww… Your post is just in time. I, too, think I already have to slow down at work and give more focus on interacting with my son – a toddler on his terrible twos stage. For the past weeks, para na akong mababaliw. I have no yaya kasi and I am 26 weeks pregnant pa. Every day is a roller coaster ride because I am trying to squeeze in my time for work, time for household and time for being a mommy. And most of the time, the time for being a mommy is compromised. Haaay. I should learn to, or rather practice the WAHM kulitan breaks. I think that would be all I need. After all, our attention is what our child needs the most at this stage of their lives. Thank you for sharing this, sis! 🙂

  • Reply EINz February 11, 2017 at 7:29 am

    I also have home office and there’s always kulitan moments with my kids while working. Yes, I can never work without interruption when the kids are awake. There’s always someone who will ask to sit in my lap and pretend to be ‘working on a computer’.

    I just continue my work on their sleeping hours, afterall “minsan lang sila bata”.

  • Reply Rowena Wendy Lei February 11, 2017 at 11:10 am

    Both my kids are teens na so what we have is banter nowadays.
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  • Reply Madz February 11, 2017 at 12:46 pm

    Kulitan is so important for both parents and kids.These days I try to really have one on one time with my toddler.We laugh and play with clay.Love this McDonalds commercial btw.

  • Reply Gilian February 11, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    This us also what we’ve learned to do lately. Funny, what a coincidence. Anyway, I stop everything I do whenever I see my son is available or bored or is starting to act naughty. It means he needs attention. It changes his moods then later on it doesn’t matter to him if he plays by himself. Family comes first.

  • Reply Liz A February 12, 2017 at 1:06 am

    I’m a full-time working momma too though not a WAHM. And I agree with having kulitan breaks with kids every chance we get. My weekday kulitan break with my son on weekdays would be the few minutes before his nap time. 🙂

  • Reply Ayi February 12, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    Everyday is kulitan day with the kids at home. And when you got two, they can be handful :)) But yes, every minute spent with them means a lot so it is important to spend time with them as much as we can 🙂
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  • Reply Josephine February 12, 2017 at 4:50 pm

    Kulitan time is really something that we take seriously. 😀 Despite the busy schedules, we always find time to play, to giggle with our kids. We love bringing out the kid in us from time to time. 🙂
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  • Reply Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy February 12, 2017 at 10:50 pm

    Kulitan breaks are really important, both for the kids and for us moms. I hope we can always make time for it. 🙂
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  • Reply Denice February 12, 2017 at 11:24 pm

    Not a WAHM but a full time working mommy. I guess we all need a break from work to spend time with our kids. They help us restart and get a renewed sense of energy. 🙂

  • Reply Mommy Queenelizabeth February 12, 2017 at 11:41 pm

    I agree with all the reason why we should have kulitan moments with our kids whether a wahm or working mom but most esp. the stay at home moms 🙂

  • Reply Edel February 13, 2017 at 12:15 am

    We all love kulitan at home especially my husband who is always the “Chief” makulit. I can say that kulitan is part of our daily routine. 🙂
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  • Reply Tetcha Figuerres February 13, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    All moms and dads share one thing in common, the love for our children. Our love for them is constant. We love them no matter what. And yes, we need to have “kulitan” breaks with them to know our kids better and for us to grow us parents.
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  • Reply TweenselMom February 13, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    We should never miss those ages when gusto pa nilang makipagkulitan because I tell you, when they grow old, you will most those moments. If I can just tell every mom na as much as possible, when your kids are still on those young ages, spend as much time as possible with them, kasi paglaki nila, all you will be able to do is to watch your videos and look at their photos.
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  • Reply Janice February 13, 2017 at 9:31 pm

    Being a WAHM myself, I can super relate to you. The reason why I chose a WAHM gig that is super flexible is so that I will never lack time for my kids especially now that we have a new baby. It’s not always easy to balance things but it can be done.
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  • Reply Macy Santos February 13, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    I love your idea of ‘kulitan’ break time. As a freelancer working at home there is really a thin line between work and home life. Sometimes I get confused in the process and got stuck somewhere in the middle like now…haha. These are the joys of being a WAHM.

  • Reply Cris Evert Lato Ruffolo February 14, 2017 at 5:41 am

    My twins are in this stage where they love to snuggle and cuddle with me when I’m home. These days, my schedule is frantic because of my work as a journalist but I really make time in the mornings, at least 15 minutes, for bedtime cuddles with them.

  • Reply berlin domingo February 14, 2017 at 9:01 pm

    I agree. Pure work can be sometimes too demanding and tiresome. A break or just laughing around kids would surely break the ice and by the time you return to work, you will feel a lot more recharged.
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  • Reply Lhourdes Mercadero February 15, 2017 at 8:28 pm

    The Kulitan Time sobrang nakakawala ng stress. Kahit pagod ka basta nakita mo silang natawa nakakagaan ng mood.
    I think best talaga to spend time with our kids kase ang bilis nilang lumaki.

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